Sense of satisfaction!

[WeeMcBeastie]

I’ve been divorced now for almost 2 years. EXH was an abusive twat and I endured almost 18 years of his behaviour. When we argued, (usually because I’d broken a plate, not put the dishwasher on early enough or some other terrible crime) he would storm out of the house for a few hours leaving me with the kids etc. While he was out, he would just walk around. He would refuse to answer my calls but sent me text essays telling me what a terrible wife I was and how he would only come home if I apologised. As you can imagine I don’t miss this at all! He is now married to the OW who actively tells people what a terrible wife I was. (She’s never met me!) They got married a few months ago without living together first! but have been posting loved up photos on social media ever since etc 🤮
Anyway, he was seen tonight by DD2 and he was walking around angry texting (presumably sending him one of his angry texts because she ate his last biscuit) The honeymoon period must well and truly be over! 😂
Does the fact that this gives me an immense sense of satisfaction make me evil? 😂😂

No! It doesn't. I don't blame you. I'd feel exactly the same.

Brilliant! I would be loving it. You put up with it for long enough.

Oh isn’t karma a wonderful thing!

Love it

OP enjoy this feeling. I'm getting a sense of satisfaction just reading your post.

Wow what a nice bunch you are? Why would you get satisfaction out of hearing stories or assuming what is going on in someone else's relationship? Why not concentrate on your own lives and loves and get pleasure from normal things!?? Sad if you ask me!

Karma is a fine thing op

I regularly hear stories about my exh and the ow about how bad it all is.

I sit back and enjoy my tea ☕️

Who said I haven't?? After a very violent marriage the last thing I want is to hear stories of how he's doing it to someone else! Glee from someone's misery is not very pleasant.

The more I think about this the worse it gets. What the fuck have their new wives or fiancées ever done to you? Why would you get any sort of satisfaction over seeing another woman suffer, you're fucking disgraceful!

I can understand this. I'm scared for abusive exH new gf but I'd feel a sense of relief that it wasn't just me and I provoked him to know he repeats it

I don't want her to suffer

More like I want to know he hasn't walked off into the sunset

OP referred to her as the OW Crunching so assume she has been cheated on and that broke up her marriage. So I guess that would answer your question about what the fuck she has ever done to her.

What the hell is wrong with my other half is he a narcissist?. Came home tonight from babysitting my grandson and got greeted with I'm not eating its too bloody late.
He's off and I'm working. I'm always out when he's in. But I work for the NHS and shifts are all over the place
I ask him to drop me at work and I just use him as a bloody taxi!!
Now I've pinched something and the kitchen tables flying around. Chairs as well. I Am not a thief or a liar either.
He smashed the big TV a few weeks ago because he was suck of seeing adverts.
I've moved into the spare room as I snore and fart like a ferret apparently! But now get told off cause of lack of intimacy.
Once years ago the older girls used to share a bedroom with bunks and were arguing as kids do so at one point he went and got his circular saw and took it upstairs switched on and was going to chop the beds up.
The youngest one night years ago did something can't think what so he basically made her run the best part of 4 miles in the middle of winter at 10 at night to which I threatened to knock him out if he ever did that again.
Is it me or is this irrational behaviour. Think ill Bury me head. X sorry to waffle.

Crunching did you read the op? The OW in this case went around telling everyone what a terrible wife the op was without ever having met her. That's what the ow did to hurt the op.

@Crunchingheadache but your never believed. They laugh at you claiming he wasn't perfect and they say it's all you being terrible

I know I don't want the woman to go through what I did. But I do want it to fuck up and her to know I wasn't the one lying

Abusive men should be locked away for a long time. If she was the OW then she did a very bad thing but to gain delight from her pain, or anyone else's is just wrong. It was the man that cheated in his wife, the OW enabled it. He's the main protagonist not her!

Well I'd gain a lot of delight at exHs pain

Would still be nothing like my own but I'd be delighted if he suffered and woman left him

Crunching I don't think OP hoped that another woman felt pain, but just had to admit that there was some satisfaction in knowing that the fault lays with his behaviour. I have to admit that while I don't want my exH GF was the OW to feel pain, when I hear that they fall out I know that he is truly twatting another relationship up.

@Batty18 you need to start a thread, copy and paste this to it to start it. He sounds horrible and very definitely abusive you should leave as soon as you can

Yes Chrunching, as others have said I was cheated on. I divorced him but it was their affair that ultimately ended the marriage. The OW has been vile towards me so I’m not her biggest fan. I saw texts that she sent him describing me as a ‘terrible wife’, unfit mother, telling him that he had to get away from me because I was making him ‘depressed’. All of this was without her ever having met me! So the fact that she’s now getting a taste of what I had to endure does make me smile! I don’t wish what I went through on anyone but the fact that she’s now starting to see what he’s really like does help me feel better. I live in a smallish town and know a lot of people so her comments have got back to me.

You're not mad, OP - you're normal, not a saint.

When you've lived through this, it IS a comfort to find that the behaviour continues - it says that it is HIM NOT YOU!!

Exactly Teabay. Twats like him make you doubt yourself sometimes. I know that it is him!