Is it good that he’d compare other women to me?

[Liley123]

Me and my current boyfriend met through my parents and first met eachother as friends. Then we matched on a dating website when he’d split up with his girlfriend a couple of weeks before. Long story short I felt like he was treating me like a rebound so didn’t speak or see him for three months. He confessed to me the other day that in that three months he tried convincing himself that I was just a rebound and didn’t like me and every girl he met he’d compare them to me and that they didn’t have the “complete package like I did” and that “they weren’t Lila” and started asking my parents how I was every time he saw them.

Is it good that he’d compare other women to me? And why would he?

Not sure what you're really asking here but something about him isn't sitting right with you it seems. He could be madly in love with you or obsessed. It's impossible to tell.
Why does it bother you that he didn't think any other girls were as good as you? Sounds like a compliment to me on a level but I don't think you're telling us the whole story. Something is off here because I'm not sure why you're asking.

I’m just very curious as to why he’d compare them to me, everyone’s different in their own way and it’s abit unfair. Ever since the beginning he has been very full on, he asked me if we could be in a proper relationship after 3 weeks of dating, although we were aquaintences for two years. He’s asking me to move in now and we’ve been together for seven months and bought me a £180 and got a dog together. There is a part of me that thinks he’s doing this to make his ex jealous although all his family and friends say he truly cares and loves me and so does he

I think go with your gut here. Be cautious. Even though he's asking you to move in does NOT mean you need to. Do not rush anything, if he is as interested as he says then he will be willing to wait.

It's difficult to know if him comparing you to others is a good thing. I would think it is, but maybe it's just that he didn't have any luck and so hoped to come back to you and is now grateful you have taken him back. Who knows. Be cautious. Are you really that into him?

Whatever else is going on, you seem uncomfortable with how fast this is moving. Is everything on his terms? You need to be comfortable having an equal say in how the relationship works.

FWIW I split with my Dp a while ago and when I met new people I realised I was trying to recreate what I had with him - “this new guy had better like ‘xyz’ as much as ex did, and if he doesn’t do ‘abc’ like ex then I’ll be disappointed”. In the end I realised it was pointless trying to recreate my old relationship so got back together with my ex!

I don’t think comparing you favourably is necessarily a bad thing, but if you’re generally wary about his motives that’s a whole conversation on its own.

I'd listen to your gut, not what his friends and family say. They're scarcely impartial.

If it feels too fast, too full-on, or not genuine, then don't keep allowing yourself to be swept along - what's his rush? If he won't take his lead from you/doesn't allow you to take a breath, it's not a good sign > in that case, it's all about what he wants and you don't figure as a person in your own right.

amp.uk.businessinsider.com/what-is-love-bombing-2017-7

Have a read of the above OP.

This is all too much, too soon and your gut is t happy. Always, always listen to your gut.