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Should I move on?

5 replies

Bailey93 · 22/05/2018 18:16

Me and my bf split up about a month ago after a 5 year relationship We were so good together, we had so much fun. He just isn’t happy in his life. He’s turning 25, and doesn’t have a career and isn’t happy in his job, whereas I have a good job and I’m happy. I guess you could say I had known deep down he was being distant towards me the last couple of months but I didn’t want to accept it. He works opposite shifts to me so it became really difficult to see eachother and put a massive strain on the relationship.
He finally ended it during a small argument (about him not making any effort). He never said he doesn’t love me anymore, I know he really does but he said he is confused about his life and where it’s going. I have being trying to go nc but have spoken to him a couple of times on the phone, both conversations have been so nice. There is no animosity at all. We were even booking a holiday the day before and he seemed like he was excited about it.
Does he just need time and do you think he’ll come back? Is he just freaking out about his life. I know I shouldn’t wait for him but I know we are supposed to be together, I’m heartbroken he’s done this!

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SandyY2K · 22/05/2018 18:18

You won't heal while you remain in contact with him.

Adora10 · 22/05/2018 18:30

Sorry OP, none of that stops you having a relationship with someone you like and or love. He's trying to let you down gently, you should definitely be moving on.

If you really want to test him go NC and see what effort he puts in.

Bailey93 · 22/05/2018 18:40

He has also said to a couple of mutual friends that he hopes we can get back together in the future, is he telling the truth?!

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user1467232073 · 22/05/2018 18:43

Life is too short to be left in the air like this. Surround yourself with supportive people and try and do other things that bring joy to your life. Move onwards and upwards, it’s hard but try not to chase him

category12 · 22/05/2018 19:10

He's probably telling people what he thinks they want to hear because he doesn't want them to think badly of him for ending the relationship. You don't just end a relationship on a whim. It might be he has his eye on someone else.

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