Is it bad that I do not want to have sex with my husband?

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We got into a fight, a huge fight. He said a lot of super mean things, such as I never want to see you again. I never want to see the boys again. I am going to get a new wife and forget you guys.

Later that night, he said sorry and wanted to talk. After, he wanted a kiss and I just didn't feel right. I have kissed him since then but the thought of being intimate is the furthest thing from my mind. I don't feel comfortable and i feel bad about it.

I did tell him that I need time to heal and that he said some really nasty things. So he does understand and is not pushing me. But every night he asks for sex.

Is it bad that I don't want for him to touch me? This fight was 2 weeks ago, before that we would have sex almost everyday.

Pressuring her for sex (and asking every night when she keeps saying no is pressure) is also abusive

If you read the op post she says he is not pushing her.

you seem to think that your opinion (lovely holiday! date night!) is an acceptable piece of advice where mine isn’t

I’ve just had a read back. You are not offering advice, you are just saying how horrible and abusive this man is. I think you are projecting.
Consider that possibly her DH is as shocked by this row as the op. Read the post, he has said he is sorry. Have you never had a row where things have just boiled over and awful things been said? Maybe not but I sure have, with the lovely man I’ve been married to for nearly 30 years.

Op you are not bu to not want to have sex after this. If it’s a one off awful row and your relationship us usually fine it will fix itself in time with a bit of effort from both sides.
If this is part of a pattern that’s another matter.

No, he isn't really like that. My husband is not that type of person. He has never spoken to me in that manner, in any of our arguments. I think that is why I am so shocked and confused of how i am suppose to feel. His response to saying those things was "I just wanted to win the argument." But then I told him, "no one wins, we both lose."
Yes, I am completely in love with him still, its not something i think will ever change but I do feel uncomfortable with engaging in anything intimate. I am kind of turned off by kissing as well. It just doesn't feel the same, but I do love him.

I can’t get over the fact that you have kids and you ( up until 2 weeks ago) have sex nearly everyday!! < totally misses point of thread>
Every day??!!

Well he only needs to say it once OP.
That's really horrible what he said.
I'd never get over that.
Id have thrown him out.

What an utterly horrible and disgusting way to behave; the pressuring you for sex is also all about him and his control over you, sorry OP but he sounds abusive and a pretty horrible person to boot; you seem to think you owe him sex whenever even when he's calling you name, totally not normal.

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Maybe the op enjoyed having sex with her DH previously. Can’t believe everyone believes that this one horrible row is the end of the relationship and this man is a horrible abuser. He has gone way too far and has a lot of ground to make up but I wouldn’t say in an otherwise loving marriage it’s a break up. 🤔 thinking back to the plates I’ve thrown, the walking out the door once when he came back late from work (again) whilst the kids all cried. I have behaved dreadfully at times, who hasn’t? However I have a good solid marriage and a wonderful family who don’t seem to be excessively traumatised.

I guess I failed to mention to that I am 4 months pregnant so I did start the fight. My hormones are just all over the place.

As far as the sex part, its him asking if he can give me oral sex. I guess he is hoping to smooth things over by performing it on me. I also think, he thinks that he will get some if he performs it on me. I love it, but no, not now.

I do want to thank everyone for the comments. I can see that my feelings are understandable and should be expected for his behavior. I plan on taking y'alls advice and going on more dates/ having another conversation. From what i am reading is communication is the key.

But no, I am not in a horrible, abusive marriage. My husband is truly the nicest person someone can meet.