How do i know it's the right decision!?

[Gingerprincess87]

Hey everyone. I'm new here but have been searching online for answers to my questions and not really getting anywhere!
Iv never been one of those girls who knew they would settle down get married and have kids. Have now been married 2 years and have lately been talking about the possibility of kids. When we first got together aged 21 (I'm now 31) I told him I didn't want kids and if he did then I wasn't the one for him - luckily he stayed with me. Recently I find myself thinking about having children but I just don't know if I'm ready. All my friends have always known they wanted children and I feel I should be sure before creating a new life but how do I know? Really struggling with this one ... have been wondering if I'm just scared to take the leap. Any help about your experiences would be very greatfully received

I have a friend who kept saying she wasn't ready to have children and her husband was pressuring her into it. She ended up accidentally getting pregnant and she's now the happiest she's ever been and loves her son to bits so i don't think you always know until it happens.

I wasn't going to have kids at all, I went to donate eggs as I felt I was wasting my fertile years and if somebody else was that desperate for a child then they should have the chance.

During the tests for the donation it was found I was likely to have an early menopause. Was told to hurry up if I wanted kids.

I wasn't sure I wanted them but also I didn't want the choice to be taken away from me and find that I wanted kids after I became menopausal.
I stopped taking the pill and we agreed to just see what happened - numerous miscarriages and 2 term pregnancies happened.

I'm two (very young) kids in now - it was a massive gamble but it's completely paid off, they genuinely have filled a hole in my life I didn't even know was there.
It's bloody hard work but somehow I don't mind, I hated the idea of the drudgery but actually love it - was fascinated seeing them develop and change each day.

You may not know how you feel until you get a positive test (or not). It's not for everyone and if you decide you still don't want kids then that's totally fine. If you decide you do that's equally fine. Wish you the best of luck whichever decision you make!

I got pregnant by accident and it came at the worst possible time in my life. Was over the moon when he arrived.
I then said I'd never have another. Fast forward 6 years and I have another son. Never regretted.