Someone I was previously on love with

[Seekingaslapbabktoreality]

I've name changed for this.

A while back I reconnected with an ex on social media. Just a few likes have been thrown back and forth. We're both married with kids.

We do have a bit of a past. I don't want to go into too much detail but he broke my heart. I was young and so in love with him. I was sure we were meant to be and we spoke about it often but it didn't work out that way.

We went our separate ways a long time ago and a few weeks ago we met up to catch up. It was so easy and comfortable like it always was.

Nothing happened and nothing will. But I haven't been able to stop thinking of him since. I had forgotten how I felt for him but it's all since come flooding back.

My relationship with my Dh isn't great. It never has been. We have a great friendship but never had the passionate side, not for lack of trying on my part. He's dependable and reliable but I've always wanted a bit more. I sometimes feel like we just met at a time when we were both looking to settle down and because we got on well decided to stick it out.

I'm not even too sure what my question is. I feel like somewhere I'm missing out. I want to be that 20 year old again... madly in love.

I could have written this post at one time!
I got over my feelings by remembering why we split the first time.

I understand where you are coming from. But even if you were with him now the madly in love stage doesn't last very long. You have more responsibilities now than you did and part of a grown up relationship is how you deal with this together. It is unrealistic to think a relationship can be passionate all the time. Generally the more passionate relationships tend to be more tumultuous and hard work anyway. There are positives and negatives to being with anyone, they are just different ones and you need to find the ones that you can put up with! Everyone is different.
But I think you need to have a look at your relationship but removing this man from the situation. If you are truly unhappy then that is another matter that you need to think about.

I understand relationships are not "hot" all of the time. It feels now like mine never is. We are friends only who have sex every now and again. It's never really anything special. Always predictable.

We're both very different people to when we met and I don't think we are compatible anymore.