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Sunshinewinter · 20/05/2018 21:53

Me and this guy known each other years about 6 years but 2 years go started seeing each other.. (I have 2 children by my ex) so everything was going good n I said I would come up to him more then he came to me as I didn't and the kids involved straight away.. ( he lives 2 hours away) so we saw each other for a year was great but back in my mind I always thought I wonder wether the children was a issue for him... so I asked him one day n he said " oh I wouldn't date someone with kids" so I was thinking wtf!!! We been seeing each other 8 months when I asked him this n I was like wow so what does that mean... so as the next month went by I ended up falling for him and falling pregnant and he went mad saying he don't want a child and that he doesn't love me and we were only seeing each other nothing serious... so he ended it and I had to have an abortion which to this day I regret. FAST FORWARD 2 years we started speaking again and decided to meet up and it was great he ended up telling me he loves me but (not in love) with me... what does that even mean.. anyway Yh he told me that and that he was silly for loosing me and that he wasn't ready to be with someone with children but now he is and he wants us to work towards a relationship so 6 months on it's been great he come here I've gone there n the times the kids been here he been great... however I can feel my self falling for him but I'm scared to talk to him about it even though he said at the start we working towards a relationship we are not in one we said no1 else we can meet up with and all of that but I can feel my self falling and I'm scared to talk to him Incase he rejects me and says he doesn't want to be with me... it took me a long time to get over him last time and I want to be with him but I feel like I'm not good enough for him his friends know about me but he hasn't even told his mum and in my mind I think that's because I have children and he doesn't want ppl to judge ... but why should that matter... I'm a mum who works my own place and look after my children... I think his mum wants him to do with someone without children and do marriage and all that first but I don't think he that fussed about that but yet I want to challenge him on that but I'm too scared too. I feel like I can't talk to him because I'm scared of what he will say, I want to say to him about me him n the kids spending more time together but I'm so scared I just don't know what to do... do I talk to him or do I just walk away now? I feel like I will never be good enough for him... I sit here most nights n cry about this, my heart feels heavy :(

OP posts:
FissionChips · 20/05/2018 23:06

He doesn’t love you, really, he doesn’t.

Move on, stop obsessing over some idiot, get a hobby, do a course. You are worth so much more than that loser.

Wellhellooo · 20/05/2018 23:12

So he says you are not actually in a relationship just working towards? Wth does that mean?

Nah not good enough for you.

tccat · 21/05/2018 10:03

I presume while you are "working towards a relationship" you are having sex with him?
What a load of bollocks, he's using you, throwing you the crumbs of a potential relationship
If he wanted a relationship you'd be in one, don't let yourself be used like this, gather up some self respect and tell him to fuck right off

lovelifex4 · 21/05/2018 18:41

You and your children deserve better I would end it now & move on it will be upsetting & hard for you but better than hanging around in hope & wasting any more time on him life is precious shouldn't be wasted 😘

RandomMess · 21/05/2018 18:43

You are his booty call Sad

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