Dating, sex and periods

[wesca990]

Hello, I recognise this is going to sound like a silly or immature question for somebody in their 20's to ask but I need advice

I have been seeing a new partner for a few weeks. Its going really well. I was at his on Friday and things got hot and heavy and we were having sex for the first time but got interrupted (long story short).

Anyway we've got a date planned for tomorrow (I've already offered he stay with me) but my period has arrived early so I will be very heavy. Yesterday he was playfully hinting about continuing what we left off on Friday. So now I find myself in a predicament. Sex on period is a no-go for me, my sex drive disappears completely whilst i'm on.

Do I warn him in advance? If so would this be a bit weird!? Do I tell him when he comes over? Or do I wait until the inevitable, things getting frisky, and then tell him?

You can always do other sexual things, besides actual sex if you are in the mood. I wouldn't say it in advance, cause dunno under different circumstances I wouldn't say before the date we are /aren't having sex tonight, kinda makes it less spontaneous and natural? She how the evening goes and how you feel, and what you are up to doing on the night (if anything). Worst case, he will get pissed off there is no sex on the table, and you will know he is a twat to get rid off 😂

He's not entitled to have sex with you just because you wanted to last time. You do know that don't you? You're required to warn a man that he's not going to get sex.

Do whatever you feel like doing when you see him. E.g. cuddle/kiss. If the mood changes to something more sexual and your drive just isn't there, then don't reciprocate and say something like "I've just come on so I'm not feeling into it at the minute" and keep doing what you are comfortable with only.

If he gets upset, then you know he's a twat, so that's quite helpful really.

Thanks both. You're right, good be a good way to weed out an idiot if he gets annoyed!

OP - I’d say - the new man you are dating will become your ‘partner’ when questions like this won’t pop up to your head.
Women menstruate regularly - and men who’ve been having sex for a while are used to it.

No special announcements are necessary. As you are dating, rather than hooking up.

When things start becoming hotter and heavier - just tell him what you can and can’t do.
Most men don’t actually care.