For goodness sake!

[Feckers2018]

Was feeling down and tearful this morning as I feel overwhelmed at work and feel there is no way out.
H avoided me most of the day. When i told him what was the matter he said he had no magic wand and stared at me. Then he said I make him feel more bloody miserable than he already is and said there are men like him all over this land and it is me. I shouldn't expect support.
I am upfront and he likes to shove things under the carpet.
So I said why didn't you say you were so miserable and he said he had.
Well he hasn't. Then he went all tearful and began pulling my character to bits.

Oh Feckers, of course he should support you, I’m sure there’s something in the marriage vows... He definitely signed up for this.
Do you think it’s over? I would find it very hard to love such an uncaring man.

Some people are really bad at emotions. Especially negative ones. Like really bad. It took training for doing mental first aid (through work) early in my career that gave me the skills to do more than look blank in these situations.

You should both be there for each other so I think something like couple counselling could be useful.

Well something is obviously very wrong with the relationship but it's hard to apportion blame. You were both sad and tearful, and neither of you noticed that the other was struggling. Now you both know, neither of you seem to care.

Hmmmmmmmmn don't agree. There was no need to avoid me and to say I made him more miserable. Fucking miserable he said.

Its all the usual turning it in me so that he ends up crying? WTF?

Well he's told you that you make him miserable, that he's been avoiding you because you make him 'more miserable than he already is'. You don't seem to have any interest in the reasons, you're just annoyed that he's blaming you for his misery and contemptuous that he cried.

He's similarly unsupportive and didn't care that you were sad today, preferring to avoid you.

That's why I said neither of you are interested in why the other is miserable or being supportive like people usually would be in a relationship. Time to call it a day, I'd say. There's no coming back from 'you make me miserable' is there?