What is the biggest threat to your relationship? Mine is...

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That I find it really challenging being a step mother on so many levels. I have some days where it feels like it would be easier if I left. I imagine fantasise about what life would be like without the constant gnawing irritations of pleasing DSD, her mum, my DH and everyonr around our situation.
I know that I just feel like this cyclically and there is let up here and there but I think if there was one thing that threatens our longevity as a couple it's this. Maybe that's just a sign to work harder in this particular area.

Distance. LDR and both massively invested in the future together but getting to spend time together can cause a lot of angst. We’re totally happy together and rarely argue but when we do is the lack of time spent together that’s the issue and it’s complained about in frustration. On the upside- we both feel the same way both go out of our way to sort it out.

Distance. Fairly new relationship (around 6 months) we live just over an hour's drive away from one another.

I can also see the ex becoming an issue in the future from what I've seen and heard thus far. Haven't had any involvement with her or BFs son yet, very much taking things slow.

Nothing!!
Took me 4 dh's to get here though!!

Love your comment April.

I'm contemplating a 3rd DH but wondering if that is excessive, but clearly not. I too would honestly say 'nothing', I believe we could work through anything.

The needs of a disabled child which are all consuming , no time for each other and also socially isolating because the child never gets invites out.

Mobile phone and his fucking football team

My illness.

Distance here too.

An hour’s drive, coupled with two very demanding jobs means we just have weekends and holidays together. Can’t see it changing any time soon. When I have a weekend like the one just gone, having spent the whole time worrying about a work thing today, I feel like i’ve wasted the time we have together and it’s a week before i’ll See him again.

Smeaton

That is awful advice. If you don't want to be a step PARENT then don't.
However don't try and be in a long term relationship with someone who has children and then refuse to be involved.
That's awful poor kids

Smeaton

That is terrible advice.

Shithead mate Derek is here now.

He's very, very loud. Trying to watch a tv show and it's on full pelt.

His wife has left him, house has been sold and for some reason all of his possessions are in our garage. Has been a couple of months and today he's added another huge box. I'm hoping the garage floods. Or catches fire. Not much in there of value belonging to us. It would be totally worth it.

He also uses the toilet and yanks off my hand towel and then just chucks it back. Sometimes it lands on therail, sometimes on the floor.

The only thing we have proper, raging war about is the dog. Money, chores, his kids, his ex, my elderly dementing mum, his batshit mother and pompous father...all have been testing at times but we never fall out about it.

But the dog has been 11 years of angst, we absolutely do not agree on her. I adore her but part of me hopes it will all be over soon and we can relax.

Lego. Specifically, Star Wars Lego.

My IL’s or more specifically my BIL. For some reason hes never liked me and has made it awkward by causing major arguments over silly things and blaming me. Me and BIL are NC but DH still keeps in very low contact with MIL constantly making big hints about ‘family’ being everything.

Warhammer.

idearlylovealaugh Amy?😂

Not sure if the biggest threat to my marriage is me or the other person my DP has recently confessed to being in love with

merlinshat I'd say the biggest problem you have there is your DP!

My health. I feel overwhelmed sometimes; that I can't meet everyone's needs and worry for the future.

I've never been in a relationship, but it appears the biggest threat to a relationship is working in an office. Shenanigans galore!