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8 replies

Cbream · 19/05/2018 19:39

Okay, this is the first time I've ever posted on here. Bit of background.... married for 15 years, early 40s, 2 kids. I basically married my best friend, still have lots of laughs and enjoy his company immensely. However, at the end of the day I married a friend so things, intimately, have drifted.
Anyway, I wanted to know how other women, or men, would react to the following. We were invited to a friend's 40th birthday tonight but couldn't get a babysitter. He has arranged to meet his male friends instead and has left me looking after the kids. So off he's gone. I'm usually pretty laid back and enjoy my own company but it has bothered me this time. I haven't said anything and we rarely argue but I don't think I would have dumped him when it's an invite for the both of us. And the fact that he has, without a second thought, has left me feeling pretty low. I rarely go out. My life is work and kids. So maybe that's what's bugging me. Are my feelings uncalled for? How would anyone else react?

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40isnew50 · 19/05/2018 19:59

I would be pretty pissed off if he hadn't discussed it with me first. We have two kids and no-one to babysit so we normally go out individually but it is always something we talk about first. I think he is bang out of order. Sorry you are feeling low. Go out alone the next day and leave him with a hangover AND the kids x

Fuckwithnosensesauce · 19/05/2018 23:30

What, no discussion of who should go?

Sally2791 · 20/05/2018 07:00

Doesn't sound very fair to be honest. I think an in depth chat is in order. And make sure you get some time out

Pandora79 · 20/05/2018 07:04

Its depends. How do you know the friend?

Personally, if it was a friend that my partner/dh knew through me, I would expect that it was me that was going.

Gu33s3inpark · 20/05/2018 08:05

If you had notice of the 40th celebration, why couldn't you get a baby sitter. How old are your children ?

Mannix · 20/05/2018 08:09

Who is a closer friend of the person having the 40th? That should have been the deciding factor IMO (unless one person didn't want to go).

I'd be pissed off if he just assumed it would be him to go and me to stay at home. Definitely worth a conversation!

FASH84 · 20/05/2018 08:09

Whose 40th is it, is it someone you know through him or vice versa?

AnyFucker · 20/05/2018 08:12

Who is closer to the 40th friend?

Although I am not sure why you have just accepted you are default child carer. Is this a regular thing for you ?

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