Hello, New to this so be gentle lol.
I have split with my ex partner of 4 years, six months ago. We have bought a house together and have 2 dogs, no children and realised our needs and wants, well mostly from my side are no longer in sync anymore.
As we both own the house together, it is now on the market and hoping, really hoping it sells. The estate agent is feeling confident, however there are similar houses in the neighbourhood which are the same build and are not budging at all for around 1.5 years, which worries us, more so me.
He saying he doesnt mind waiting until this house sells and will wait for years or however longer until this house to sell.. but I am worried in case we are stuck in this house for years, months, decades as I am desperate to move on with my life, plus I have met a lovely man recently and taking this new relationship really slowly at the same time I have a feeling it may go somewhere and he is being very patient with me too which is so lovely. I feel I have met finally a lovely person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Has anyone been in this situation before, my new partner says he can buy him out or help, but wouldnt ask of that yet and my Aunt is saying the same to me that she will help but it would mean the mortgage will just about kill me as well as bills on my own, its doable but its painful.My mum was saying maybe wait another six months and see what happens with the new man and if he wants to stay with you until the house sells, he can rent out his house which is indeed true but I am not going to ask that yet until things are exclusive and I know what is going on...I am very patient at the moment.
He is just very selfish my ex and when he is not in the house its bliss when he is here either I want out or I am on edge sitting in another room or just wanting to be nowhere near him.
Shall I just wait, I know it may seem obvious to ask for help from family but its a hefty weight on them and that doesnt seem fair on them and would kill me financially re bills too....Has anyone waited a while and how did you cope. I am worried if my ex found out I have someone he would get nasty you see, I didnt meet this man until 3 months after we broke up and we were friends for 3 years previously too.
Thank you