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DH infidelately...Today's wedding made me cry for what he did to us and our marriage. Anyone else?

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flowerpot1000000 · 19/05/2018 17:18

Didnt think I was bothered about the royal wedding. Decided to watch abit and when they were saying their vows and looking at how adoring Harry looked at her made me burst out crying. DH had an emotional affair 18 months ago...so he said nothing more but just as bad in my opinion. Made me so very sad today that he's destroyed everything we had...all my memories of our day

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AnneLovesGilbert · 19/05/2018 17:21

Oh OP Flowers

You have options, if you’re unhappy and don’t trust him you can leave him. I’m so sorry you’re suffering.

ConfusedNoMore · 19/05/2018 17:23

Yes weddings bring up emotions just like funerals. My wedding day was beautiful but all a lie. Broke all his vows and didn't mean a word of it.. I had a little cry too.. Tho also because it was beautiful and I felt so much for her and her mum, who was so alone and emotional.

Muddlingalongalone · 19/05/2018 17:36

Me two OP. Exh was here visiting the children today. I wouldn't take him back if he was the last man on earth but I was emotional for what should have been if he hadn't been a cheating scumbag
They looked so in love.

Newerversion · 19/05/2018 17:49

It made me cry too. Made me realise just what a cockwomble I married.

MrsPussinBoots · 19/05/2018 17:51

Me too Thanks I was so happy on my wedding day. Didn't last long.

ferriswheel · 19/05/2018 17:56

Me too. So, so cheated and sad.

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flowerpot1000000 · 19/05/2018 18:13

Im just being silly and cant believe how I felt. Has really brought it home to me. I believed in us I believed in my vows. I never ever thought I'd be one if those women who become very bitter I used to think I was one of the lucky ones.

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SuperSuperSuper · 19/05/2018 18:33

Are you still working through it or did you separate OP? What happened?

I kind of know what you mean. I don't miss my ex and I'm unbothered about remarrying, but I'd love someone to look at me like H looked at M today and vice versa. I don't envy her royal status or wealth but I envy her relationship.

GoddessInTraining · 19/05/2018 18:39

Me too Flowers

I’m a real cynic these days but seeing how H and M looked at each other made my heart ache. I wish that I had someone who loved me and looked at me like that.

Orangecake123 · 19/05/2018 18:55

Watching the wedding made me sad for my mother.

StarlightSparkle · 19/05/2018 19:05

I felt sad too. When they said the vows about being faithful it was a stark reminder that my H said that too but as soon as things got tough, it all went out the window. Our wedding day was amazing and we were so happy. I can’t believe how it’s turned out just a few years later.

NK346f2849X127d8bca260 · 19/05/2018 19:23

I watched it too and felt sad, I have also had to attend two weddings, both my nieces, since my world crumbled!

ComeOnGordon · 19/05/2018 19:28

Me too. I have no great interest in them but I was sobbing - I didn’t feel like I was crying for myself but dh and I only recently separated (after he cheated on me for 18 months) but I was also upset that her dysfunctional family tried to ruin her day & how lonely her mother looked. Sending you Flowers OP

Merlinshat · 19/05/2018 19:34

Me too, watching them say their vows set me off - turned it off.

odig · 19/05/2018 19:42

But her first marriage didn't work out. Many of you will hopefully be lucky next time. Flowers

Dappledsunlight · 19/05/2018 20:30

Op, same here....I have felt a bit down after watching the wedding. It was the way they looked at each other. But they're young and now both in a privileged position. It's so far removed from everyone's lives. Meantime, back on planet earth, I've been mowing the lawn and clearing out garden shed with a non communicative DH! They'll never be doing that together! Seriously, weddings stir up all kinds of difficult emotions...sorrow and envy even alongside the joy.

junebirthdaygirl · 19/05/2018 23:28

A lot of it is just fantasy. The reality is her parents were divorced and obviously hate each other. She was divorced. His parents were divorced and his father had an affair right through his marriage.
Its lovely to see the wedding and l hope they are happy but they have had pain too.
Best to look on it like a romantic movie , get back to reality and be happy in our own skin.
At least we may have nice families as poor Megan only seems to have her mum and no extended family.
Until recently Harry says he was depressed. They have their own issues too.

Deflatedandrejected · 20/05/2018 00:17

Yep I’m another one who had a little cry. Cried for everything that we were together and he chucked away.

Mummyofone123 · 20/05/2018 20:48

Absolutely cried as it hit me that I now won’t be getting married (engaged for 4 years, together for 6, have a 2 year old, separated for 4 months). I can be happy for happy people but highlights the sadness I’m feeling. Def not alone.

GertieMotherwell · 20/05/2018 21:50

I felt only joy for them.

This thread has made me realise I have obviously made great steps towards recovery after DHs affair.

I’m sorry for all those who found it hard 💐

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