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Gonna need support and big girl pants

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Fatbirdy · 18/05/2018 21:44

So, last week I decided to stop treading on eggshells and ask my partner if all was ok with us.

It's not. After 8 years, he wants out. He loves me but not my personality...

Anyways, I've been ignored for years so that's not too bad. I do love him unfortunately and this is skewing my views of how things should be.

We are both brassic. Like perma broke. Him just bogging off aint ever gonna happen. He needs time to save and likewise I need to be in a position where shit and fan do never meet.

So we are.... surviving. He gives less than 2 shits that we are done. He still chooses to take the bed and so far his commitments to the kids involve him going away for 4 days to download festival and beer drinking golf with his mates.

I'm heartbroken and he's acting like a single with no responsibilities!

Worse still, we have to share the house until he saves enough to move out. With all these plans he aint saving shit!

Help me switch on the light I need to get rid of this asshole. I need to see the light

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Pixikitten0123 · 18/05/2018 22:17

You need to get rid of him as clearly he’s not taking him moving out seriously. Him being there will really have a negative effect on your mental health. He’s effectively having his cake and eating it by saying he wants one thing but not doing anything about it. I’m sorry you’re going through this and if it helps I’m nearly three months free of my ex, as gutted as I was and I honestly mean gutted, there’s life after and I’m now valuing the fact that he isn’t good enough for me and our children.

Fatbirdy · 18/05/2018 22:44

Thank you chick. He is a selfish asshole and I need to see it that way.

I was crying earlier (i thought I hid it well) but he came and hugged me for the first time in months. Wtf does he want?!

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