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Am I the one that’s wrong

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BJJP2018 · 18/05/2018 17:57

So I’ve never had a great relationship with my parents I always felt they were way to busy for me and how I was feeling. I moved over down to other things when I was in my late teens.....
since moving away 70 miles they have only been to visit me twice, it’s always excuse after excuse more so on my dads part.
Since being pregnant things have been said that really grate on me, things sounding more like it’s for them then it is us.
I’ve always felt pushed out as a child and even sometimes now.
I’m struggling to let them in on my pregnancy and be happy with this being there first grandchild.
I get they are happy and over joyed etc but I feel like asking why now, why didn’t they really seem to be bothered when it was just me?
This is something that I am really struggling to deal with as I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings I never have but it’s so hard trying to be happy with them. Ild rather them stay distant as they have always seemed to be.
Problem is I can’t say anything because I just don’t know how they will take it for one and for to I really don’t want to upset any one but it’s too much for me to deal with.
I’ve only really had myself and for the past 7 years my partner who I am more than happy with but this whole trying to be happy along side my mum and Dad who seem to want to make this about them as well as us I am really struggling to deal with
Any advice guys :(

OP posts:
category12 · 18/05/2018 18:31

Well, you don't have to let them decide how much they're in your life - it's up to you. It's OK to limit contact if that's better for you. Don't please them at your own expense. Having dc can often throw your own childhood into sharp relief.

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