does every couple have at least one big argument over sleep/division of labour/what a state the house is in when you have a newborn?

[CocoDeMoll]

I can’t even remember what started it but i think it was just about being shown apreciation of all I do rather than expecting massive changes.

I’ve tried keeping my cool and communicating like a rational human but I did what I always do and let it build up inside till I went silent and then exploded once both children were asleep last night.

I’m just so tired and feel like he doesn’t realise how lucky he is not to have to do any of the night stuff.
I’m breastfeeding and co sleeping so this was my choice to kick him out of our bedroom. I don’t actually want or expect big changes but just for him to know he’s getting an easy ride and appiciate that.

Not a fight (yet!) but I've definitely been annoyed when he sleeps through DS waking up and been a bit snappy. I try to talk to him about how I'm feeling (mainly frustrated at not being able to leave DS) and he's supportive and working on finding another way to feed DS which I appreciate.

I’m loving the responses here!!
Dh came in to my bedroom this morning at 06:30 to announce after his unbroken nights sleep his bladder had woken him and that he needed to go back to bed because he was knackered . I’ve gestured to the sleeping 4 year old across my legs and the awake baby in my arms and gave him a ‘the fuck?’ look. Baby was taken away and I wasn’t disturbed till 8.30 WIN!!

This is why Ive hired a cleaner. Cant really afford it but I'm due to give birth soon and I do not want the same deal I had with DC1. We argued constantly.
I will reduce her hours eventually, but for now, its saving our sanity.