Tell me I should never speak to him again

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I’ve been seeing someone for a few months and I’ve found out he has a partner he’s been with for 2 years, I’ve spoken to her an she’s said she will probably give him another chance.

He’s telling me different and that he wants to be with me. The day it all blew up about him and his girlfriend, he came round mine that night and we slept together it’s bad I know, he kept saying to me how he will be with me and to tell him I want him too. I never! He hasn’t contacted me since yesterday so I’m assuming he spent the night with her last night. I’m so torn I know it’s so wrong and I should block him on everything but I can’t help liking him. I’m thinking he obviously doesn’t care that much about me but I have never come across someone I thought was so genuine and the way he is with me makes me think he really does like me. I’m really resisting the urge to contact him, I know I need some self respect but I can’t help liking him.

Someone speak some sense into me please😩

You need to up your bar op. . He is a complete tosser imo.
Move on from his twatism.
You deserve better.

He doesn’t give a shiny shit about you & see’s you as a convenient cum dump only.

You deserve to be near the centre of someone’s universe. Good luck

I thought was so genuine
Yep, a genuine liar and genuine cheat.
I honestly cannot believe you are even considering this.
It says a lot about you.
So please do some work on yourself.
Figure out why you are prepared to accept such shitty treatment from a scumbag like this.
It was all lies.
All of it!!!!
For all that is holy, block, ignore and delete.

You should never speak to him again!

Please don't go back fr more punishment. It may be hard but you are only a few months in and he has spent that time lying and cheating on you. You deserve better and there are better out there

RAISE YOUR STANDARDS!!!

Seriously, your self respect must be in your boots for you to even consider believing a word he says. He is a confirmed cheater. You will always know that is what he is.

Grab your self respect and run!

I thought was so genuine

Genuine in what way? Literally everything hes saying to you and his girlfriend is a lie!

Genuine, he's far from it, you know what you need to do and yes, find your self respect and tell the cheating twat to do one; don't accept being treated like that and think about the fact that he has a partner, long before you came along; think about how you would feel in her shoes.

Btw he is pissing himself laughing at how easy it was to get back into your bed after you discovered the truth. He’ll carry on laughing at you behind your back for as long as you fall for his shit.

He sounded genuine because you wouldn't have believed him if he'd sounded fake would you!!! He's a master at this and has perfected his act.

Don't for a minute believe you were anything special to him, he lied and deceived you both, but he's hedging his bets and will stay with whichever one of you is foolish enough to stick around- hence his bed hopping (such a catch)

Don't be the mug here. He's treated you abysmally

Get rid!

Once you knew he had a girlfriend you still slept with him?

He’s a twat and you are a fool.
I feel sorry for the girlfriend.

Thank you! I know I can’t believe i did, I’ve never been in a situation like this and feel so ashamed but really did like him, I thought if they did split up I would carry on seeing him but all it would do is send me crazy and he obviously could never be trusted. I’ve never come across someone so sly and such a good liar!

He was desperate for me to tell him I loved him and wanted to be with him, but I couldn’t because I know I’d never be able to trust him and I told him that. I wandered why he would even want me to come out with stuff like that but I’m guessing it’s an ego boost for him an he wants me and the gf on side

it's how they can do this for a while - proper cheats are always excellent liars and seem so genuine. You've seen him for what he is, dump and move on.

I wandered why he would even want me to come out with stuff like that but I’m guessing it’s an ego boost for him an he wants me and the gf on side

Possibly less ego boost and more testing how gullible and easy to manipulate you are.

He wants to hear all that because he is a narcissist.
Google it - you'll find him there.

Urgh “men” like this bring me out in hives just thinking about how grim they are.
I say “men” because a real man doesn’t behave in such a disgusting fashion. He has more respect for himself never mind the woman he is supposed to be in a relationship with. This male is a toxic little boy.

Leave him to fester in his own fetid, morally bankrupt crappy little fuckwit world.

why he would even want me to come out with stuff like that

Could be an ego thing. Could be about being able to tell himself you've "forgiven" him and that what he did wasn't that bad. And/or could also be a way of making you feel committed /implicit with him - normal people set great store by things we've said and find it hard to go back on our word. Saying it out loud makes it truer somehow.