When did you get engaged?

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Me and DP have been together for 4 weeks. We have known each other for 10 years and I have loved him since the first time I ever saw him. We are both in our twenties and have been talking about marriage which I know people might think is ridiculous after only being in an "offical" relationship for a month.
Just curious as to how long people were with their DPs before they got engaged?

Knew mine for a year - got together in March 'officially' and got engaged that December...
we both knew we wanted to get married pretty much straight away. I was with my ex for YEARS and never saw myself getting married to him strangely enough. When you know you know!

Six months.
Me out of a 15 year marriage (25 year relationship) not long before and him
8 years out of a marriage.
Not easy but we both knew and anticipate a looooong engagement as be both have dc residing with us full time.
Was more about the sentiment and our personal commitment to each other rather than a big fanfare. We only told close family and friends and let others find out in their own time.

Yeh thats too soon.
I was 4 years

@fortygin yes ours is more about just wanting to be married. we aren't interested in a big fancy wedding or anything, we've said when we do get married it will be registry office with a few family members and that's that. We will be getting married to get married, not to show off or spend loads of money!

I was with my last ex for years and never wanted to get married to him and when I left he pulled the old "oh well I was just about to buy an engagement ring!" lol

Me and DH had previously dated very briefly before I got cold feet and we stopped seeing each other (in hindsight this was anxiety related and I was not in a great place to be dating). We got back in touch a couple of years later and started dating again. We started discussing marriage after 6 months, and he proposed after 12 months. We married the following year. Got our 5 yr anniversary coming up soon

2.5 years, the last 2 years of which was very long distance (opposite sides of the world). We met while expats working abroad and lived in the same city for the first 6 months before our contracts ended. We definitely knew after about 5 months (now married and together for 10 years with 2 dc). But living together can be very eye opening so I would stress doing that before you make any decisions, and having really frank conversations about finances and parenting choices and religion and life goals. That’s what really sealed the deal when I knew that our values and life plans aligned.

7 years after we met. But, I was 16 when I met him (he was 17).

DH and I got together in June 2002, and got engaged in February 2006 (married in October 2007). It was a long distance relationship for the first 3.5 years & we only saw each other every 4 weeks.

I knew my DP for 10 years before we started seeing each other/dating. Always had a bit of a thing but never really went anywhere. Been together 3.5 years now. I'm late 20s. I honestly think the knowing someone for years before doesn't give you that much extra credit. You know their friends, maybe their family, their hobbies, more about them. Everything is more comfortable more quickly. But you still don't know what they're like in a relationship, what it's like to live with them, etc.

Personally I won't be getting married until (and if) there is a logical reason to do so. If it makes sense for you to get married (you want DC in 2 years, whatever) then you should get married at that time or before. Engagements mean different things to different people- if you are going to be engaged and planning a wedding then for next year, then I really think at least a few years is sensible unless there's a pressing need to bring that forward (pregnancy, illness, etc). If you're going to get engaged just because...then it doesn't really matter, I guess?

Do you have DC? I think that is the most important thing. I love my dp more than I ever loved my dh ( got together when I was 15) but I know my dc would struggle at this stage to have me married to someone else so we will wait at least 5 years. (His youngest is 13 and mine is 6).

We didn't get 'engaged' we just decided to get married.

We'd been together 11years when we got engaged.

We'd known each other and been a couple for 18 months. We also had a 5 month old baby. It took us another 10 years to get married though .

About 2 years

We were together just under 3 years. It's a tricky one because of had a couple.of relationships before where after 6 months we were completely loved up and we discussed marriage but a year or so down the line things weren't great. Im not sure at what point you know things are for keeps, i guess we dont and thats why divorce rates are so high!

8 years into our relationship but I was 16 when we met and he was 19. We'd lived together for 4 and a bit years and bought our house a few months earlier 😊

6 months ... we've been together now 20 years, when u know u just know

Got together in 2009. Engaged 2015. Married in 2017. Managed to buy a house and have two babies in the middle of it all. You dont have to rush to be together.

2 weeks!

We were officially together 18 months.

3 months. Happily married for nearly 3 years. Best decision I ever made.

Met Nov, engaged 14 months later, had ds 8 months later, got married when ds was 10 months.

I was with my ex for 7 years and never got to the point of wanting to get engaged. My dh and within a month I was asking where he thought the relationship was going. He proposed after 2 months and we got married 8 months later. Never regretted it. Once you know, you know.

Engaged after 3 years then married 10 months later when we were 29 and 30, that was 26 years ago

Together for 27 years. Married for 15. Never got engaged.