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Original poster

Am I been horrible or reasonable?

27 replies

Justaman22 · 17/05/2018 17:18

Hi all
My spouse is looking at living me after a a very marriage, the property we live in was purchase by me and the deeds in my name, I have paid all the bill etc I have also put my self in debt with weeding cost etc. my spouse says that the should be sold and we must share the money, I feel very uneasy about this as I have paid for everything. What are my rights? We don't have children together. I love my spouse but I can put myself at risk

OP posts:
ElspethFlashman · 17/05/2018 17:19

It's a marital asset. He's right.

Prestonsflowers · 17/05/2018 17:20

I suggest that you make an appointment to talk to a solicitor/lawyer as soon as you can

ElspethFlashman · 17/05/2018 17:20

Or she!

Original poster
Justaman22 · 17/05/2018 17:21

The property was purchase before we got married

OP posts:
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 17/05/2018 17:21

Sorry it's a bit difficult to understand your typing.

Am I right in thinking your spouse is 'leaving' you and basically wants a 50/50 share of everything? How long have you been together? Has he/she contributed financially to anything?

You need some proper legal advice.

ElspethFlashman · 17/05/2018 17:23

It probably doesn't matter that it was purchased prior, sorry.

Original poster
Justaman22 · 17/05/2018 17:24

My spouse wants 50% of the property sale, we only been married for 6 months

OP posts:
Gazelda · 17/05/2018 17:24

It's difficult to say whether you're being horrible or reasonable. There are so many factors that would contribute to one or the other.
But what is important is that you get legal advice and agree something that is fair.

Original poster
Justaman22 · 17/05/2018 17:25

If we had both contributed to furnishing, bills etc I will no problem but I have put myself in debts to pay everything

OP posts:
HollowTalk · 17/05/2018 17:27

No, OP, if you've only been married a few months you WON'T lose 50% of everything. You need to see a solicitor as soon as possible.

HollowTalk · 17/05/2018 17:28

I'd be looking at an annulment, too - it sounds as though he married you for the wrong reasons.

category12 · 17/05/2018 17:30

That short a marriage and you being able to prove that you bought alone, he's kidding himself he'll get half. He won't. Get proper legal advice, stat.

Singlenotsingle · 17/05/2018 17:31

Your spouse (I take it you're the husband?) will be entitled to something but probably not 50/50. It's a spouse who hasn't contributed anything, but unfortunately you married him/her. Get the house valued, see how much equity there is, and take it from there. Get proper legal advice.

LalalalaaaCantHearYou · 17/05/2018 17:33

Get legal advice ASAP

The longer you’re married the more rights he may have.

category12 · 17/05/2018 17:34

Although if you lived together for a long time before marriage, they'll have more of a claim.

SoapOnARoap · 17/05/2018 19:20

Not 50/50 but, entitled to something.

Very unfair I think but, a reason why life skills & the huge negative implications of marriage, as well as the benefits, need to be taught in schools. It’s a legal contract that do many people walk blindly in to

redastherose · 17/05/2018 19:55

Definitely not 50/50. Not even definitely entitled to something as the op hasn't given enough details to be sure. With a short marriage and no children they will most likely be put back into the same financial position they enjoyed prior to marriage so if op owned the house and has made all the mortgage payments and all her stbxh has done is contribute to some bills and bought some furniture I would think that most likely they would agree to can split the furnishings and she would need to pay him back a figure to compensate for his contribution towards the running costs. However, Op must go and see a solicitor as soon as possible and get proper advice based on the facts not supposition.

Crispbutty · 17/05/2018 20:00

You need to see a solicitor, but if you purchased the property before you lived together and before the marriage, then after such a short marriage your spouse is unlikely to get anything especially if you can also prove you have paid all the bills too.

Racecardriver · 17/05/2018 20:02

Talk to a lawyer. The court won't grant a share in your premarital assets after only six months. Don't worry.

SandyY2K · 17/05/2018 20:11

Echo seeing a lawyer. Very short marriage and no kids. ...can't see your spouse would get half at all.

Wherearemymarbles · 17/05/2018 21:17

The only person who can advise you properly is a solicitor.

With no kids and such a short marriage Your spouse is not entitled to nor will receive 50% or anything close

Spanglyprincess1 · 18/05/2018 14:46

Assets pre marriage can count differently esp if marriage is.for a short period and you can prove non contribution (unless due to.childcare etc). Speak to a solicitor urgently.

hellsbellsmelons · 18/05/2018 15:59

If it's only 6 months marriage and you had the property before you got married then he is most certainly NOT entitled to 50%
This guy is after one thing.
Half of your property.
Get to a solicitor next week and get some advice.
And kick this leech out of YOUR house right now!!!!!

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/05/2018 16:02

You bought the house, what a year ago, got married six months ago, with you paying for everything? Now your wife (husband?) wants half?

Get legal advice quickly, sounds very dodgy!

lilybetsy · 18/05/2018 17:48

You NEED a family solicitor asap. A good one. Hes talking bullshit but for Gods sake get a lawyer

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