Effects on children from a relationship breakdown

[Fatbirdy]

I'll start by saying that this is a subject that I have tunnel vision on. My mother left my father, me and my sister for another man on Christmas Eve when I was 11.

It was incredibly painful opening my presents on Christmas Day while my poor Dad sobbed his heart out.

I still don't have much of a relationship with her. We see each other probably 3 times a year for less than an hour. I just cannot find it in me to forgive her (she was a serial cheat).

Fast forward 26 years and my partner is leaving. I am devastated for myself but also our 2 girls. At 3 and 6 will this damage them?

I will say my sister was 8 at the time and although she still struggles with what our Mum did, she does have a close relationship with her.

Will my DD's age mean they too will be ok?

I don't mind my own company tbh. Of course there will be the initial feeling of being lonely, but since my youngest has been born I haven't had time to even read a book. She is more than a handful!

It will be nice to just sit and read in peace now and again.

Too old for clubbing and too young for a knitting circle... not that I can knit