Abusive ex has a new partner

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I'm still reeling and healing from abusive marriage

He's got a new partner and they're moving in together

I hate him. But I'm stunned and scared for this woman at the same time.

If you say anything to her, he will only tell her that you're the crazy ex and it'll only push them closer together.

I'm so sorry that you're suffering right now but the best thing to do is to give yourself time to grieve and heal and let this woman figure out how much of a pig he is on her own.
Any intervention could make things worse.

I'm sure I'm already known as crazy ex for the non mol order

Can't see how she's with him without a pack of lies

But yes I guess doing anything wouldn't help

Maybe send her a message saying a few things about him. Tell her that she doesn't have to believe you but not to commit to him for a while until she knows what he's really like and that you wish someone would have warned you.

She will probably ignore it but something will stick and hopefully make her a little more careful.

Is anything recorded that would be disclosable under Claire's law? You could anonomously suggest she requests that information, if you believe she is in danger.

Well, you should take comfort that he is now distracted. It is sad another woman may suffer, but you need to look out for yourself. That sounds selfish, and it is; but it is necessary in this circumstance.

It is really hard, I know, but work on releasing that hate. Hate is still a connection with him. The holy grail is complete indifference.

No I was stupid and hid it from lots of people. When I tried to get documented record from GP they couldn't as I'd always been so careful how I worded things.

Most mutual friends and family are still deceived and I'm crazy

I think messaging her will probably open a can of worms and potentially make things worse for me. Can only hope she kicks him out when she finds out for herself sadly

He was cautioned by police once... will she be able to see that?

OP, please look into the freedom programme. It helped me to heal after my extremely abusive relationship.

He'll have probably given her the 'my ex is crazy' speech already, so even if you do message her it'll most likely be dismissed as you being bitter and twisted. It could also cause your ex to target you again.
It's terribly sad, but please don't put yourself in danger of anymore abuse.

Focus on your healing.

Stay strong

Thanks @HarshingMyMellow I did do it recently

Chin up, my love.

Onwards and upwards is the only way now.