Cheated on

[rich412]

Evening all.

So my wife cheated and I realised it. It was with a younger man and they cant really be blamed. Trouble is blame is bit pointless here unless I look at myself. I drank, gambled and took her for granted. So i'm not looking for sympathy and i'm not looking for advice (strangely)

I'm just sharing my experience.

So background, married 19 years together 25 since she was 18 which i always felt meant she missed few years of fun. I didn't as i'm 4 years older and went away to training school.

So my question is, taking into account that I can forgive, (cant forget). What happens next................right now we get on better than ever, we are active and very intimate.

Should I just say line drawn and move forward or should I worry ever text and every call. Best advice I have given myself is, every one gets a second chance but no one gets a third

Hope to hear thoughts, share experiences and get some perspective, hope to hear from you soon x

Move on. If both of you are in a better space there is no point in dwelling on it. Both of you behaved badly- take it as a wake up call and lead your best life from now on.

What does she want?
She cheated but she still has a choice.

Ha she taken full responsibility for the affair or has she blamed you?

It sounds like you’re both sweeping this under the carpet. Cracks will inevitably reappear.

Do you have children?

Sounds like you are doing the 'Hysterical Bonding' or 'Pick me dance'.

You sound like you've had your issues, even so that doesn't give your wife the permission to cheat. For me cheating is an absolute deal breaker, it's one of the worst things you can do to a person. The fallout and aftermath can be horrendous, but it can also be a blessing for the person cheated on further down the line and make you a better, stronger person.

When it happened to me i left, couldn't be with someone who after 25 years together was willing to lie and deceive in the way they did. Put my health at risk, blow a family apart, the financial losses it totally heartbreaking.

3, 14/13/11 good kids and they will never know. I have forgiven moved on. I won’t forget but everyone gets a second chance

Drop her. If she's cheated once she will again. Concentrate on being a good father and a better person for yourself. Once a person crosses that line there is no going back.