Advice on how to remove a toxic person?

[storyofmylife0]

Don’t really know how to start with this one. Just know that I need some words of wisdom on how to successfully remove someone from my life that is making me emotionally unstable and mentally exhausted.

The silly thing is, I know the other person would happily cut me out of their life if I asked them too. I’m totally under their control right now though, finding myself waiting all day for a message from them and letting them completely break my heart every single day.

Just need a hand hold really, and to be reminded that I need to rid this person from my life before it goes too far..

Hi I am a male and I would be happy to offer my advice. I feel I am in a similar position, but maybe I'm the toxic one.. I'm trying to figure that out.
I promote honesty and truth. I feel any worries or concerns shouldn't scare off someone if they like you.. if it scares them you need to get away.. Have you confronted why he's not messaging? I'm not messaging the girl I like because she told me she wants space. It's making me go crazy but I'm trying my best to let her get some things done. Is he busy?

Passw0rd Thanks for your reply. He messages every now and then, normally only if he wants something. He shouldn’t be speaking to me anyway but he does. Without outing myself, he’s a lot older than me, and not available.

I’ve told him how i feel, that i’ve become emotionally attached and have feelings, but because i know it can never come to anything I said we should stop speaking completely. We did, for about 3 days and then it all started again as if I have never mentioned it.

I guess i just feel like an absolute fool for responding so quickly every single time he texts, and doing anything he asks of me whenever he asks. I feel guilty for even speaking to him but I just can’t find it within myself to cut contact.

Can you try and block his number, just for a week? If blocking him totally is too much for you maybe try and have a few Him-free days to start off with

I'm sorry to hear your in that position. I understand what it's like to be the emotionally attached one. I was used for years by a girl for money food housing and other stuff.. She was not the slightest bit interested. It really emotionally damaged me to a point I haven't dated for over 6 years and I have just started dating someone but i have too many insecurities and worries from the past it's put strain on this relationship to a point I think I've wrecked it. You have to realise it's not good for you and you need to pull away. It won't work and you'll only hate yourself more after. If you allow yourself to be played it will play a bigger part in your future life than it should. It's hard to pull away from someone you like.. I get it. But you have to draw a line somewhere. I hope you find it on yourself to be strong.