Is he a narc?

[2014love]

I’ve been seeing someone for around 2 months, we spoke a lot before meeting. He seems genuine, caring and funny etc. I do like him and could picture myself having something more serious with him in the future. There’s a few things I’m a bit 🤔 about and don’t know if I’m being daft or if it is stuff to be wary about,

He compliments me a lot, the last time I seen him he told me how he could see himself with me in the future and even marrying me, he said he’s falling in love with me I’m all he thinks about etc, he’s told me his ex’s used to put him down and make him feel worthless they would pick at things about him, he wants someone loyal and all he wants is to be/feel loved! We text most of the day everyday and he will ring on his break and at night too!

He’s met two of my friends both think he’s lovely, my mum thinks he sounds like he could be a narcissist. I like him but just don’t know!🙈

Have you asked your mum why she thinks that. Has he shown any signs of being a narc? Its hard to tell one way or another from your post and probably in real life too He could be "love bombing" in order to draw you in or he could genuinely feel this way.

And what does he mean by loyal?

Not sure anyone could really judge from what you've posted - narcissistic personality disorder is a complex diagnosable condition. Here's a list of symptoms so you can judge for yourself:
www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662

I personally think that there could be a couple of red flags there - especially around "loyalty", who knows what he means by that?! But without knowing him it's quite tough to judge. Listen to your gut, if you're not sure then walk away. Best of luck!

Well turns out something was up, I find out tonight he has a girlfriend an I’m not the only one he has been seeing behind her back!

Wow!!! How did you find out?

That escalated quickly.

Tbh it doesnt matter if he is a narc or not. Its 2 months. If he actions were making you uncomfortable, then thats enough to end it.

Obviously now you know he is a dick. But i wish people would stop throwing round personality disorders to describe people who are dicks.

Crikey.
And HE wants loyal!
Dickhead.

Please get checked for STI's asap.
Vile human being that he is.
Glad you found out this early on.

And so yes, with the further info he is probably a narc.
And really figgin' needy.
I had to recently end a 3 month 'thing' because the guy was so needy.
So off-putting.

mothers intuition dodged a bullet there!

Wow how did you find out? Why is he playing around, is he really insecure?

Random one but his brother actually told my mum! His girlfriend adding me on Facebook days before so she was obviously suspicious, no sign of either of them on each others Facebook. I messaged her an asked if she was seeing him, she said yes he’s my boyfriend of 3 years. We ended up speaking on the phone, I think I’m not the only girl he’s been seeing and his girlfriend is going to forgive him.

Deffo going to get checked out! Madness

He’s now non stop ringing me and texting saying it’s me he wants to be with 😴. It’s put me off men for a while! Never been in this type of situation! 🙈

What an arse, you've dodged a bullet there. Just block him and he should get the message.

Sounds like your mum has a good radar for narcs! Sounds like you've dodged a bullet!