Really annoyed with these friends and thinking of ditching them both!

[Kittenything]

I have two friends, for simplicity I'll call them Friend A and Friend B. I have known them both for years, since school days (we are now late thirties), and over the years we have often met up and gone out as a three.

About four years ago A and B had a big argument and fell out and cut contact with each other. Both had plenty to say about the other to me but I said to each that I liked them both and didn't want to get involved and that it was between them. I continued my friendships with both A and B.

Very recently they have both become friends with each other again and are good friends to the point of being obsessed with each other on social media. They have both been meeting up a lot and neither have invited me nor have they been available to meet with me at any time when I've suggested it since they've become friends again.

On Friday, friend A sent me a message asking if I wanted to meet with her and B at her house and have coffee and a catch up this morning. I said yes and it was planned that I'd go to her house at 9.30 after the school run. Friend A then sent me a text first thing this morning saying that the coffee is cancelled as she's not feeling well. Ok, no problem at all, and I didn't think anything of it.

Friend A has now just tagged B on Facebook saying what a lovely morning she has had 'Catching up with her oldest and dearest friend' !! I have just 'liked' the post and left it at that.

I think I am going to ditch them both as I have other friends that act in a more mature way and I just cannot be bothered with playing silly games. No doubt there is some undercurrent or other there and something is being/has been said about me but I just cannot be bothered with it.

I had friends like this. When I was 12. Don't get caught up in the silly games. Either talk to them as mature grown ups (if they are capable) or ditch.

OMG - what a pair of bitches.
Yes ditch them.
Block, ignore and delete them from your life and move one without the worry of these 'friendships'!!!??

They sound like complete shits... ditch em

Fuck that, why would you want anything to do with them?

Basically, people are weird. And some are more weird than others.

It's so pathetic that women in their 30s are still acting like this. Had enough of that kind of crap in high school. Ditch them. You can do better for sure.

Wow...what a bitch. Don’t fall for her drama. She must be looking for a row or to draw you into something so that she can paint you as the bad guy. Go grey rock. Be pleasant, polite at all times but don’t engage in anything beyond the pleasantries. Next time she invites you, you are busy. Start building up a new social group. Don’t include either of them in anything you are doing and don’t introduce either of them to anybody you know. They are essentially now just strangers to be wary of as they have proved they can’t be trusted. When they fall out again and they turn to you to be a shoulder just say “sorry to hear that but I don’t have any free time at all this week. Will message when I do” and then don’t message. You need to ease them out of your life but with zero drama or comebacks

They obviously wanted you to find out.

At least you know where you stand

Wow. How childish are some adults huh? It's crazy to think that whilst you were fully capable of acting maturely and not getting involved with their spat they have the maturity of 12 year olds.

OP you're well rid.

The next time you're invited out, don't bother with the polite decline, perhaps another time malarkey. Laugh and say, "Of course not!" Say goodbye and leave/put the phone down. A decent "Do you think I'm a fucking mug?" Attitude will make you feel better.

Seems like since school only 1 of you grew up. . . Op you have lost nowt..

Nowt so weird as friends.

Some are grand. Some are odd. Some swing from one to the other.

If you really like these two then you could try having a conversation with them. If not then just walk away.

These people are not friends, ditch them now and walk away with your dignity.

I'd change the "like" to a "wow" reaction and drop the pair if them.

Ha, I’d want to add... hey remember how you two would bad mouth the other to me for the last x years before you became besties again? You were both right.

They'll fall out again eventually, no doubt.

Leave them to it. Very rude and who has time for shit people?

Drama seekers. Fell out, wanted to put you in the middle to hype it up and you refused to engage. That would have subconsciously annoyed them both - they would rather you had picked sides and got in the middle of it thus giving them fuel for their drama-curated lives for months longer.

They wanted you to know they hung out. They both would have been absolutely (insert emotion of the moment; 'horrified', 'awks', 'aghast', 'embarassed' or whatever) that you saw the post and and liked it, even though that was the intent. It gives them something to talk about for the next 12 weeks until they need to fuel the next problem up (because their lives are dull and they have to create unhappiness and pettiness - and in their minds 'jealousy', to feel good about themselves.). By not engaging and trying to maintain a friendship you'll be jealous and unsupportive; maybe even the reason they fell out int heir minds. By keeping friendly you'll be desperate, and they'll keep rejecting you for no good reason just because they can and want to, and it makes them feel special.

Childish, petty, and not the sort of friends you need. They need to be the centre of everything. Even when they're not they'll assume they are. I know it's tough but i wouldn't have the time for it, but it's awful when things like this happen