Ok I have a dd 9 and a ds 6, I love them both dearly. They really are my world. But I have a tendancy to bicker and not get on very well with dd at times. Whereas I am more loving towards my son. Granted he is a very easy child to deal with and seems more mature than my dd. She is very head strong and has always seemed very tuned in with emotions from a very young age. She struggle with anxiety and we have addressed this and brought her to doctors and child physcologist who has told us we are doing all the right things. My husband has commented more than a few times that I favour my son over my daughter and yes my actions would look like that from the out side. I get more annoyed at her than I would him. She can be very moody at times and I will try to talk to her but it makes her worse. We have a loving family so there are no problems at home. She gets on really well with her younger brother too and loves him dearly. I hadn't a great relationship with my own mother growing up , I felt she couldn't show her love to me and formed a great bond with my dad. I really don't want to turn out like my mother with myself. I love my daughter so so much and when she was a baby we were so close, literally just me and her every day whilst dh was at work, we slept together and went everywhere together. What has gone wrong? I find it hard to cope with her moodiness and I find sometimes pulling back because the more I give her the more she takes kind of thing. For eg if she is upset about something trivial and I try and comfort her she either rebuffs it and gets moody or will cry and moan even more, whereas with son, he will accept the comfort and go off about his business. This is really upsetting me because I love my two kids so much but I am worried about the damage this could be causing my daughter. She also has a habit of tics, coughing, opening her mouth as if to yawn etc, I have tried to help her with this and have explained they are little tics etc and that once they aren't harming her its ok. In school she is very bright and gets on well with all her pals. I'm so sorry for rambling on I am just trying to give you an idea of the situation. I also organise for us to have girl days but I feel like once we are off in town etc, she only really has interest in having an ice cream and maybe me buying her a little toy or book and then wants to head home. I always had visions of being really close to her as she grew up and I don't think this is the case.
Has anyone any advice please.