Can i just have a rant :(

[Winelover90]

Hi all, im new here.. so this is my first post still learning how this site works.
Just looking for a little rant really as i dont have anyone else to rant to that wont be biased & take sides, when all i really want is to get it all out of my system.
So i have 2 kids from a previous relationship & one with current partner.
So yesterday i was settling the baby in the bedroom & my 5yo came to the door showing me pictures and asking if i can put them on the walls, me trying to not disturb the baby in my arms told him ‘no mummy cant get up now’ then he says ‘can i put them in ny room with my stickers’ so (now im thinking the stickers he was using, the kids ones he has, they are hardly sticky so i assumed they wouldnt hold for long and wouldn't ruin the wall) i say urm ok go on quietly. All is done & i forget this whole thing. Forward to this morning & the 5yo has wet hes bed even though he had on those night nappies, he didnt even tell me (hes brother did) just as my partner comes down and says that my 5yo has smeared GLITTER GLUE all over the walls (behind the pictures) so now he is blaming me and having a go. 5yo is crying cuz hes pictures got ripped when they were pulled off the wall. My partner is shouting because the paint also got ripped off and is blaming me for it, want to point out here that the source of our arguments is always the same thing and he is a very loving person usually. I have the baby thats been up since 5am on my lap semi crying. And i literally broke down in tears when they all left.
Now i understand that i shoukd have been more cautious but i honestly thought that was all he even had in hes room. Now i already feel crap so please be nice about all this. My 5yo’s behaiviour has been awful latley. My partner has been increasingly stressed with him because hes always ruining some part of the house in some way. (Trust me this is nothing compared to the things he has done in the past he does also lie A LOT and generally disregards anything he is told not to do) im torn because as much as he is little i understand a person can only take so much.

So now im just in tears trying to manage a crying baby, lord knows when i will get the time to clean hes bed and do general housework today. In fact the house looks like a bomb has hit it because the baby is teething and screams when i out him down ive been getting around 3 hours sleep the past few nights. On top of all this im breastfeeding (LO is 7 months) and haven't started my monthly's yet but am having some serious dreams that im pregnant! Which im not opposed to but i am quite emotional atm.

Thanks for listening to my rant, sorry if its a bit ‘everywhere’ im typing on my phone whilst holding LO

Tried to go back & edit some spelling/grammar errrors but couldnt scroll. Apologies

Ah you poor thing, sleep deprivation can make everything seem so much worse, can your partner see to the baby in the night so you can get some much needed rest ? Could your 5yo be feeling pushed out since the baby has been born and his bad behaviour is attention seeking? Thou I dont see the glitter glue as bad behaviour tbh , as all he was doing was trying to put his pictures up, but with regard to other behaviour.

Look, it sounds like you are a bit to used to being blamed and shouted at. How dare your DP speak to you like that, regardless of the walls or his annoyance!!! Is he like this often? Because honestly I don’t think the 5 yr old is the problem here.

Kids are testing and exhausting. We all react badly to our homes being constantly ruined by them and when you’re tired or it’s happened a few too many times that week, we can overreact.

But ranting at your exhausted partner while she has a baby in her lap is totally out of order.

So basically you’ve don’t nothing wrong. You should be mad at your DP for kicking you when you’re down.

Oh dear, sorry to hear you had such a bad day yesterday. Having a rant on here is good.

I'm pregnant with dc 3 and also had a nightmare of a day yesterday.

Just little things that led me to crying in the car on the way to collect dc's up from school.

Dh rang me mid crying to say he totally forgot to tell me we were going to a bbq tonight. I wasn't in the mood and cried down the phone to him. Also didn't like the way he was controlling so had a go about that.

Trying to avoid everyone in the school playground as I'm still crying.

Pop to the shop for some bits and realise I've left my bank card at home.

Get home....here's the best bit.....reverse the car into right our wall....right in front of our neighbours.

Spend 10 mins in the car still crying. Dcs are driving me bonkers which is fair enough as they are just sat in the car. Finally get out but can't open the gate as I've clearly hit the wall too hard and it's dented the gate so literally have to kick it open. Also realise how much I've scratched the car.

Usually I'd ring dh but decide not too seen as I've just cried and screamed down the phone at him.

He comes home and is fine and fixes the wall and the gate.

We go to the bbq. Dcs get tired. Dh has had a few drinks. I want to go home. Casually say to dh 'stay if you want, just get a taxi home' thinking he would be like 'oh no I'm coming home with you' but he doesn't and he actually stays.

So I take dcs home in a mood again. Get them to bed and all I want is wine but I can't cos I'm pregnant so I eat an entire chocolate gateau to myself. Then feel shit afterwards and go to bed.

Horrible day yesterday.

Hope today is a better day for you up. Make sure you do something to treat yourself today. Even if it's just a piece of cake or something.

None of what's happened is the end of the world, it's just when you are tired and emotional and crappy things happen, it's hard to let it not get to you. Hugs xx

I don't think it's your child that's the problem, it's your partner.

Your child is probably picking up on the fact that mummy doesn't have a lot of time for him (which is completely understandable!) but your partner doesn't like him very much either and all he does is shout at his mummy or him, so he does things to get attention and/or just to entertain himself.

5 year olds always wreck the decor. No big deal, it can be redecorated. Your partner needs to understand this.