Do you think it's acceptable to flirt with multiple people over the internet?

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Met a woman through a mutual online interest (Facebook page) and we did some mild flirting, it got more serious (think talking dirty). This was almost daily over a a couple of months.

However, it's got back to me that she has also been doing similar with other women and men from the same group.

We have spoken on the phone and get on well as friends. We live in different countries and never had any intentions of meeting each other. We never had discussed anything being between us.

It just feels wrong to me to do it with a few people.

What do you think?

I think you are not in a relationship so she can do what she wants.

I agree. No one has made a commitment to anyone, but all the same, going from one line of flirt to the other? I couldn't keep up with it and sacked all three off.

So you're not going to meet, have no exclusivity agreed...

But think she's doing something wrong by behaving the same with others as she has with you??

Am I missing something? Or would you like us to call her a trollop to help your wounded pride and realisation that you are in fact not that special?

I'm not saying I'm special in anyway, but I was just wondering if it's seen as acceptable. I thought we had fun together and she made it seem like it was just exclusive.

But you didn't have any plans or intentions to ever meet? Why would that be something she must remain exclusive to?

She may not even be real and simply be a lonely old catfish getting kicks

What business is it of yours ?

I mean, we have FaceTimed, etc. so she is real, but I guess you're right, she may not mean any of it.

I'm not saying it's my business. I'm just saying when it was something between us, it seems... wrong.

I think you were just hoping you’d made a unique connection - and feel as though you had in your own mind. But if you’re both single then there is no real harm done is there? But be warned OP - people can fool you in the flesh - online they could really be anyone - try not to project too much of what you seek on to the person you are corresponding with maybe?

You were never planning to even meet her. There's just no part of this fairytale that ends in happy ever after. It's always been pure fantasy.

I don't think she's done anything wrong tbh. Sorry you're hurt though

Well, you had no intention of meeting, do obviously didnt expect her to not kiss, touch, fuck, other people. So whilst I sort of understad what youre getting at (because theyre mutual online friends?), it doesnt logically follow to expect her not to flirt with people online....

How old are you? Because if you're 12 then this level of delusion is acceptable , probably due to being exposed to "rom coms" during your childhood.

If you're in your 20s then looooooooool

Are you mad because you discovered you can't mark your territory in cyberspace?

So this was an Internet I my friend you had no intention of ever meeting?

She could have had sex with a different man every single night and it would still be none of your business.

Quite apart from which one man’s friendly chatting is another man’s flirting.

This kind of “relationship” online isn’t real, don’t treat it as if it were.

Whilst I think it’s a bit off, I guess it’s something men do all the time, maybe it feels odd to you that it’s a woman playing a guys game

I am female myself, so I'm not sure what the sarky comments are about.

It was flirting, and a fantasy. Especially given that you weren’t going to meet.
Your fantasy was an exclusive type, hers - not.

So - yes, it was acceptable.

I think you can both do what you like.
Unless there was talk of it being exclusive between you both and it was agreed than she's done nothing wrong.

What would be the point of being in an exclusive online only relationship?

Never really understood this online exclusive relationship thing. You're both single penpals basically, she can do what she wants with whomever she wants.