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Confused with my ex

12 replies

Hg89 · 14/05/2018 20:40

My ex walked out on me and our 2 year old the end of March. He was awful at the beginning calling me for almonds and I didn't retaliate coz what's the point I didn't speak to him unless it was regarding our son, anything else I completely ignored. Telling me to move out our home coz he's selling up he will divorce me in june (weve been married a year come june which is why the delay) etc. Now he's suddenly changed and he's been texting me everyday and he's been coming round we've had sex and a nice time he stayed one night but left the next time time saying I'll stay over one night thru the week. Is he regretting the split or just having his cake and eating it? It's like he slowly wants to come back but am not daring to ask where this is going? I've heard no mention of divorce and he's not selling our home now.

OP posts:
Aprilmightbemynewname · 14/05/2018 20:42

He hasn't been able to get a shag anywhere else yet..
Sorry op but you know you deserve more than him....

user1471453601 · 14/05/2018 20:42

I definitely wouldn't give him any more almonds

Original poster
Hg89 · 14/05/2018 20:44

Ha should say alkinds

OP posts:
Singlenotsingle · 14/05/2018 20:46

Why does he think you'll move out of the house? You need to get legal advice on this. Are you married? Is the house in joint names or his sole name? And yes, he's taking the pee if he's coming back for sex only

Singlenotsingle · 14/05/2018 20:48

Sorry yes you're married (didn't see that)

SandyY2K · 14/05/2018 21:18

You're familiar and willing to sleep with him while he's at a loose end.

He's also getting the booty call in for next week.

midnightmisssuki · 14/05/2018 21:20

he just hasn't found anyone else to sleep with yet so is using you. Be careful OP.

Sometimeitrains · 14/05/2018 21:53

Maybe he does regret it but doesnt want to appologise, maybe its convinient or maybe ita confusing because he himself doesnt know what to do.
But you wont know unless you ask him what his expectations are.
Why did you split in the first place?

pissedonatrain · 15/05/2018 11:32

the thing he walked out on you for didn't work out so he wants to come back.

abbsisspartacus · 15/05/2018 11:35

Don't do the pick me dance op it's demeaning

hellsbellsmelons · 15/05/2018 12:01

Is he regretting the split or just having his cake and eating it?
He's certainly not regretting it now.
He doesn't have to commit or parent, he just calls round for shag every now and then and you are willing to supply that.
Please please please do NOT lower yourself to this.
It's so so bad for your self-esteem and mental health.
But I fear you will continue to do this and so will he... until he finds his next shag then you'll be thrown on the scrap heap again.. and then again... and then again.... etc..
You are his willing fall back girl.
Big girl panties, self respect and tell him to do one!!!

TheBogWitchIsBack · 15/05/2018 12:04

He's using you for sex. Stop having sex with him.

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