move me and kids to refuge and start again?

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Namechanged so I don't out myself.
I am seriously considering taking my kids and going to a refuge in a completely different location to our hometown.
Its been 3 years since almost since I left my ex and after non- molestation orders and moving house twice I am still getting ad hoc contact from him that is unwanted. I don't take the kids out as I'm worried about seeing him and they no long go to swimming/football/ gymnastic as he has turned up at these places to both Harrass and intimidate me. he now know the area where I live since moving and has conveniently been 'in the area' over the last few weeks and has approached me twice. I am now 3 years almost down the line and still feel as trapped now as I did 3 years ago. the kids have already moved schools and we have moved house and now my choice is to either move in our home town AGAIN, get another non molestation order/restraining order and hope thats enough or to relocate somewhere the other side of the country and start over again, new and without any fear. I only stayed here so he could see the kids but he has only been granted supervised contact and hasn't seen the kids for 2 years for contact unless we have bumped into him by chance (or not chance as is more likely).
I know this is a now or never moment, I don't care where we live and womens aid have given me a list of cities where we could go, its literally a case of pick and go. I have -little- no family ties to worry about.
WWYD?

Yes, move. Your kids will adapt far better to a different curriculum than to an environment where their mother is constantly on edge and their abusive father could turn up anytime.

Go. Feel safe. Live without fear or stress. BUT before you go, make sure all the latest contact attempts that breach anyborder are reported to the police, just in case he raises a contact issue in the future.

Get the order first ( throw him of the sent) then move out of area as soon as you get it

If you just up and move he still may look for you, putting the order in first will throw him of the scent

I’d also consider changing your name by deed poll as this again will make it more difficult to find you, change your email etc and cut all ties, tell neighbors your going to X city to again sow the wrong seed

I have a record of him not having contact already, he is supposed to see the children in a local contact centre with a social worker present but on turned up and handful of times and then told the contact centre that he couldn't afford it.
he doesn't have PR for the kids and is unable to collect them from school etc.
I just can't live like this anymore. Im scared all the time and my older boy is now going into yr 6 and wants to start walking to school etc to get ready for secondary and I keep saying no. Its so soul destroying for him as he just wants to be like his friends but I am petrified that ex will intervene while he is on way to/from school.
I only stayed here so ex could have contact but in that 2-3 years he has never attended a school meeting/CAF/TAM/EHA for the kids, declined to go on the parenting courses etc that social care wanted him to go on and hasn't bothered with the contact centre stating that its unaffordable.
yet he is happy to follow and scare me when I'm on my own with the toddler (who doesn't know who he is). Im scared ALL the time, don't sleep, depressed and tearful all the time. I just can't carry on like this.
Its time to get away and have a fresh start.

Is he the kind to track you down? You might need to be very careful about social media, electoral roll etc else what is to stop him just getting on a train to come and find you. Not meant to be discouraging, just mean cover all your bases if you are making that big a move. Hope you find a lovely safe new home

I don't think so happy, he is extremely lazy but opportunistic, he will stop us if he sees up/knows we are somewhere that is convenient for him but he wouldn't bother travelling hundreds of miles to look. right now he just wants to upset the apple cart and intimidate me but I know he wouldn't go t that much trouble.

after days of going over and over this, I've decided to go for it. Its been 2 years and if he hasn't bothered to see the kids properly in the contact car he isn't going to. I just can't take the constant stress and upset when he ad hoc pops into our life uninvited and threatens me or just intimidates me. Im not his to frighten anymore and neither are the kids so we are going to leave, move away and start a life of freedom and happiness.