Is it possible for your heart to hurt?

[OpheliaLeghorn]

I feel as if mine does. But this may be complete bollocks.

Thank you, both. Today's specific was just another failure to ring me when he said he would, and a general off-handedness towards me. Yet when he feels differently inclined, he couldn't be sweeter or nicer. I try to tell myself that it is almost never anything specifically to do with me, and all to do with him, but it still hurts to feel cast aside and uncared for.

Thinking further. The 'heart hurting' thing is, I suppose, my realisation that he is not going to change and that he will never give himself to anyone wholeheartedly. I'm not sure he's capable of it. Doesn't stop me loving him to distraction, though...

Your heart hurts because of grief. Grief that he’s never going to be the person you wanted or deserved and realising your relationship is lost to you. I’m so sorry you feel like this. I remember the ache all too well. I really does get better in time

It is one of the worst hurts. But it does get better and the memory hurts even when your heart stops hurting as much. One day the memory won't hurt so badly either and you can look back with nostalgia and wistfulness but bits of happy too. Give yourself time

Yes. I have had that. And the three times I remember thinking about a broken heart, literally. The first time I was 18 and have never forgotten it.

Yes. Mine ached when my then partner betrayed me then dumped me 7 years ago. I thought I had developed a heart problem.

Yes, my heart now hurts when my children are very upset. It aches for them.

It's only happened to me once but will never forget the pain. I thought I would never recover. I did though. You will too, with time

Yes, ,definitely possible. I wouldn't have believed it until a few years ago.

Hope you are OK OP.

I’m so sorry. My heart has definitely hurt before. It will take time but you will get there.

My sympathies xx

You can see by now that it is a real thing. And because it is a physical pain, paracetamol can help. It will pass, as other posters have said, but a little help won't do any damage.

xx

it's a guessing game
Well it shouldn't be.
You have been through enough.
Please take back control of your life.

And yes your heart can literally hurt.
Feel like it's literally breaking.
Been there and got the t-shirt
And as others say - it does improve.
It does get better.
It will probably never be fully repaired again.
But there is hope.
It will take time. Don't rush anything.
Except getting control of your life back.
Dump and move on.
You know you need to.
Living in limbo is basically torturing yourself.
Why on earth would you do that to YOU!??

Yes, when my dad died my heart physically ached for days. That is why we talk of a broken heart, I am sure of it.