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How do I work on me / us once I start work again?

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GerddwrEryri · 14/05/2018 13:19

A few months ago I hit my partner. I was arrested and I now have a criminal record. It should never have happened and I deeply regret it. A few weeks later I lost my job and had to support myself using savings. Since then I've made every effort to work on myself. I've had mental health issues for as long as I can remember and have never had the chance to fully work on myself. I'm seeing a counsellor and have done an anger management course and a violence in relationships course. I think the courses have been a lot more helpful than the counselling tbh and is really improving our relationship as well as my own personal mental health and sense of wellbeing.

I was due to be starting another course in a few weeks but have now been offered a job. I'm worried that by taking the job I'll be losing the ability to work on myself but I can't live on savings forever. All of the courses / groups I've found have been Monday to Friday 9-5 which are the same hours as the new job. If we end up breaking up I'll be stuffed financially in a few weeks if I don't take the job. But equally if I take the job and we break up sure I'll be more financially stable but I'll still have a criminal record and a hell of a lot of work still needed on myself with no means of being able to achieve it.

How do I take the job whilst still being able to work on myself?

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Storm4star · 14/05/2018 13:41

You’re saying all the courses are 9-5 but there has to be some in the evenings or weekends. I’ve been involved in running these types of courses through work and we’ve always had both day and evening groups. It’s ridiculous to think that only the unemployed might need this help!

Go back to all the ones you looked at, call them and explain your situation. If they don’t have anything suitable for you, they might be able to point you in the right direction.

GerddwrEryri · 14/05/2018 14:07

@Storm4star unfortunately due to funding the ones I've found are only 9-5. I quite agree it's ridiculous only the unemployed need help.

I've tried Mind, Women's Aid, all of the ones run by our local community or council. None can offer evenings or weekends or point me in the direction of any that do.

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