Relationship counselling as a single person?

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Has anyone done this? I fly from one relationship into another too quickly. Met a bloke ten days ago and he's stayed at my house 7 nights out of this. He's 24 and I'm 32, it's not healthy and I know it. I've become attached already, I can't help it. It's only two weeks after I came back off holiday with my fling/fwb. My first relationship was at 27, I got married and he was abusive (still is) and cheated on me constantly including using prostitutes. When I'm single I sleep around. I need to get out of this negative cycle and can't do it on my own.

Just an ordinary counsellor would be fine, wouldn't it? It does sound as though you need someone to talk things over with.

First relationship at 17 rather! Yeah maybe a normal counsellor would be fine. I'm destroying my life with my obsessions over men.

When you're single is the best time for therapy!!

Well done for recognising you have a problem and wanting to fix it. That’s the crucial first step.

I suggest you see a psychotherapist or counsellor - it doesn’t have to be relationship counselling, but do talk to a few to make sure you find someone good, and make sure they are qualified and registered etc.

I am currently having counselling for relationship issues, mine aren't quite the same but I do become attached too quickly. I've been lucky the counsellor I have is absolutely brilliant, I was skeptical at first. It's been hard going opening up, but I almost feel like a different person. The one big thing I am finding which is helping is an app he suggested which is called Headspace. It's made a huge difference to my life, that including his advice which combines CBT is working incredibly well. I would say most definitely go for it. If you don't connect or feel the counsellor is any good then change and find one that is.

Good luck!

Thanks all. I'm just sat in the drs now, going to go back onto my anti depressants. Bloke I've been seeing finished it this morning and I can't go on, thanks for everyone's advice.

YOU can go on.
But this cannot.
You know it's no good for you so counselling is an excellent idea.
Make sure you tell the Doc everything.
Have you been checked for Autism or Bipolar?

No but my daughter has HF autism. I don't think it's anything like that just that I've always been in bad relationships. I'd slept with ten plus blokes by the age of 15 but was really good for 14 years and now it's just kicked off again. Even if I'm seeing someone I'll have a few other numbers as back up. Dr gave me sertraline. Was honest with him about everything, with two student drs in the room which was a bit 🙈

Are you getting counselling or just taking anti depressants?

Pills alone aren’t going to change this.

Yes to the counselling. You need to unpick what's been going on and what's behind it. Can you do some work on yourself as well? Looking at self care, improving your self esteem etc?