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09/05/2018 16:54 7372dm
Hi I'm new to the group but have read many posts over the past few months. I'm looking advice. Myself and my DH has went no contact with my mil she has bullied me and emotionally abuse us for the best part of 27 years she s now turning the rest of the family against us. She never made me feel welcome. I was in her house once and sil said what's she doing here and also said there's a bad smell in here. Mil said nothing at all. She was delighted with the insult. Also she asked DH to fix her Hoover he joked if I get time, I said aw you will, as I spoke she said if I need your help I'll ask for it. I didn't get food at a bbq sil served person in front and person behind me I was mortified but just walked on with a glass of juice. We went to a wedding and sil came over to me and DH brothers wife she asked her had she seen my DH and me standing there. It all came to a head when we were at a party I was talking to brother in law wife mil came in smile from ear to ear I'm only getting round to speaking to you now to DH brothers wife totally ignored me sat back in the seat so she had to turn her back to me. After about 10 min I got up and said I'm away to her other dil she got up bold as brass said oh I must say goodbye to DH hugged him and our children while giving me a smug look. Am I being unreasonable by letting her get to me would love some advice xx
Today 12:09 7372dm
We hadn't any contact for over a year just texts from other family members saying mil doesn't know what she's done and so on my DH text sil back telling her some of what went on, still no apology i then get a dirty disrespectful video sent to me by her husband's son (my DH father has died) she still knows nothing she s playing the victim and the rest of the family are running around giving her sympathy. Do we submit for the sake of our children. Truth is I don't think mentally or emotionally me or DH has the strength for anymore of their mind games