Partner and I of 15 years haven’t been getting along recently. Mainly because he does nothing to support me with one of my disabled kids. Has never been to one appt in the last 2 years. I do it all on my own. I’m actually now his full time carer.
I was ill today and expected DH to sort the kids out for breakfast, but as usual he was in a zombie like state watching the TV. So I did it. Then I went shopping. Came back and he’d put one load of washing on that I had already put by the washing machine, and put two bowls in the dishwasher. I just wanted a break after also then cooking lunch, but he announced he was going upstairs for a nap. I couldn’t believe it.
I told him he does do anything to help me and he launched into this really aggressive and angry attack at me “saying you are evil, you are a bad person. Every thing you do has a price to pay. You think you’re such a big woman but you aren’t shit. I’ve done the washing and the dishwasher” Our daughter who is 7 was sat right next to us. I said you aren’t damaging me with what you are saying, you are damaging her. I’ve now taken her upstairs to watch a film. I’m so angry.
He also told me to fuck off this morning because I asked if he was going to sit and watch the tv all day. Which he does every weekend. The kids often joke he’s kissing the tv right now, when I take them out.
I always seem to be the bad guy because I stand up against his bullshit.