I am a single mum to a 15 month old and have been since day 1. DD isnt a terrible sleeper but she isnt the best either i usually end up getting up to her once or twice a night for anything from 5 minutes to half an hour.
I have no help with DD, my parents live 70 miles away and i dont really have any friends.
I started to see a guy about 6 months ago and he is lovely and great with my dd. Because i have very little support child free evenings are few and far between - my birthday at the end of November and valentines day are the only nights we have had where i havent had DD there.
This is the issue, I am shattered all the time, just from months of broken sleep and some really tough times personally in the last couple of months. I feel dead on my feet, i cried this morning just because im so tired and then feel like a shit mum because dd derserves someone fun and full of energy.
Anyway my partner is going on a night out with friends at the end of the month and i have asked my mum to have my DD over night so i can have a lie in and a good nights sleep and sort my DDs room out the next day. Dp says im being selfish as we never have a night alone i should be waiting for him to be free and get my mum to babysit then.
Trouble with that is he then wants to get up early and spend the day doing things and going places we cant go when i have DD which i understand but really all i want to do is to sleep in my own bed alone and wake up and have a chilled day catching up with house stuff.
Am i being selfish?