Things have been tough for a while as last year my long term partner and father of my child dumped me rather brutally for someone he'd been having an affair with.
As he owned the house this caused all manner of horrors for me beyond the usual heartache and humiliation, but the upshot of it is I survived.
He is still with the OW who now spends part of every other weekend with my very young child - which is a whole other thing I've just had to swallow, but there you have it.
To my amazement, I have also moved on in a way I never thought would be possible and, perhaps unsurprisingly to many of the experienced denizens of Mumsnet - I am far better off without the shit.
My issue is that while he should be loving life with the new bimbette of half his age - he will not let me go. This manifests itself in a number of ways, such as refusing to return many of my possessions (he promised me I would be able to collect them when he booted me out his house with our child); he has kept mail that he said he would forward to me (it took months for me to get an address I could actually forward this to); he also tracked my location on my mobile phone and I have proved that he reads my emails.
When I say these things out loud I sound like a paranoid maniac. I believe this is something he is counting on as he has a long history of promoting ex partners as deranged lunatics.
I have changed my phone and shut down my social media profiles (he was able to get into these too) but I can't change my email address as it is a work one. I have changed the password on multiple occasions but eventually he still gets in. I thought we were over this, however recently it has become apparent that he has been in my email again.
There is nothing especially private in my email, however it maddens me that a man who spent many years making me feel like I was worth nothing, and who ultimately threw me away - still feels that he has the right to rifle through my existence.
Does anyone have any advice?