Please could I request your opinions?

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Hello, I’m sorry this is going to be a little bit vague. I don’t want to give any back story so that I’m not influencing your answers.

I have just found out that my DP has nicknamed me ‘crazy Catherine’ - not my actual name but you get the drift. He apparently calls me this to his brother and family.

What do you make of this? Thanks.

I'd think unless it's a lovely affectionate little joke, which if it was you wouldn't be posting about it, then its pretty disrespectful and rude of him..

Not what someone who loves you would or should you call you. Mine calls me "my angel".

It’s not a joke. I’m a bit appalled actually about this.

Thanks for your opinions.

How long have you been together?
How well do you know his family?
How did you find out about this?

We’ve been together for over four years.

I know his family but we don’t spend a lot of time together.

He was telling me about the nickname he and his brother had for their mother. I asked him whether he had a nickname for me. That’s when he told me.

I don't really understand it tbh, surely nicknames are pet names? Why would you use a nick name for your partner that they didn't know about? Very weird. Does you partner have nicknames for everyone? It's a bit childish imo!

In regards to pet names, I mean that you call EACH OTHER.

What did you say when he told you?
Was it in jest?

I personally wouldn’t worry about it - unless you feel like there was some malice behind it?

Did you not ask him to explain why he calls you that? Are you crazy?

I am not crazy. At least I don’t think I’m crazy.

He said he only calls me crazy Catherine when I’ve been ‘giving him grief’.

I don’t really know what to think. He calls his mother a pretty awful name but I know he worships the ground she walks on.

I'd be pissed off.

Does he put you down in other ways? I guess if it's behind your back you won't know.

What does 'giving him grief' refer to?

Giving him grief can range from me expressing an opinion that is different to his to me being annoyed with him and telling him why.

I call OH Rick the Prick. I've even wrote cards to him addressed that way.

If you think he says it to be a dick and demean/laugh at you then it's obviously not on.
If it's just a joke you can either join in or tell him you dislike it and why and ask him to stop.

You know better than us which one it is.

Funny how you’ve accepted “worships the ground she walks on” to explain him calling his mother ‘awful names’ but won’t apply the same sentiment —lame arse excuse— to ‘Crazy Catherine’. Your H is an immature prick but his immature prickery is only a concern when you’re on the receiving end.

Given that you know he’s a prick and this isn’t the first time you’ve been a target of his prickery, why are you so shocked? Is it him sharing his prickery with others and therefore his contempt for you being public?

Hopefully this will be the catalyst you need to address the problems in your marriage.

Id fuck him off.
My ex was like this.
Him and one particular friend also used to call his friends ex something similar (although she did have MH issues probably because of the way said friend treated her).
My ex was also fond of telling anyone that would listen how crazy and unstable I was, my family included. Although apparently all of my ex's ex's were also apparently phsyco. I asked him once if all these women were crazy when he met them or did they just turn crazy after being with him, he didn't like that.
I could be projecting here though because my ex was abusive, in many ways, one of his favourite ways to abuse me if I 'pissed him off' was to scream at me that I was crazy and needed help.
However I personally think worshipping the ground someone walks on does not involve calling them derogatory names or taking the piss out of them behind their back.