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Why is the truth so rare?

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JellyBean31 · 12/05/2018 11:49

1st tinder date arranged for this afternoon. We were messaging until about 11pm last night.

Just has a message that says
"The truth ..... I drank way to much last night and really don't need to scare you with my visage today! Can we meet up tomorrow, pretty please?Totally understand if it's a no go as it's bloody poor show on my part"

Wtf? We weren't meeting till 2pm!

I reckon he pulled last night and has either only just got home or she's only just left. Either way I'll be swerving this guy!

It just annoys me because it clearly isn't "the truth"

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Thingsdogetbetter · 12/05/2018 11:54

Sounds like the truth to me. I've had hangovers that lasted all day. Lol. But if he was capable of messaging you til 11pm, when did he get so hammered? After that? When he knew he had a lunchtime date the next day. Poor show at the very least.

Josuk · 12/05/2018 11:56

OP - you have no way of knowing, whether he is telling the the truth or not.
What do you have to lose if you re-schedule?

Chocolate123 · 12/05/2018 12:04

It's strange that he was messaging until 11 last night. Did he say he was out at the time?

Typeractive · 12/05/2018 12:05

Pretty shabby behaviour. I'd probably bin him at this point.

I'm not sure it's a good thing to message so late into the evening, especially on a Saturday night. Not saying that this is actually the case, but it can end up looking as though you're a bit lonely, attention-hungry and lacking in options.

He's cancelled because he thinks it's likely you'll overlook behaviour and re-schedule and, even if you don't, he doesn't really care.

I wouldn't give him anymore thought. Who cares whether or not it's 'the truth'. He's messing you around. Move onto the next one.

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JellyBean31 · 12/05/2018 12:10

I'm not lacking in options but I was having a rare Friday night in, I have no problem being honest, that doesn't mean I'm desperate or willing to accept flaky behaviour.

He did say he was out, alone, eating dinner. He even asked me to join him last minute but I had just got in late from work and wasn't up for it.

I can't do tomorrow anyway.

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harlaandgoddard · 12/05/2018 12:14

Sounds like the truth to me. He could’ve just said he has a vomiting bug or something.

Bit flaky but I’d give him another chance. Maybe back off a bit, tell him you can’t do tomorrow and see what happens.

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JellyBean31 · 12/05/2018 12:28

I've replied & told him I already have plans tomorrow... Which is the actual truth.. Haha

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Typeractive · 12/05/2018 12:52

Really sorry, didn't mean to sound insulting. Wasn't commenting on you, rather the impression he may have received.

And I've got my days jumbled up Blush (did a night shift last night and my internal clock is a mess...)

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