Pls recommend me a self help book to help our marriage

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Any recommendations please?

Is there a specific problem?

check out The Gottman institute, John Gottman in America. He has videos on Youtube, genius

Bickering all the time. I feel like he doesn't listen to me. He feels like I don't appreciate him... irritating each other not spending time together competitive tiredness .. usual married to each other for ages and falling out of love stuff sadly

This is quite a good book for your circumstances

I love The Rules for Marriage, The Care and Feeding of Husbands, and First Kill All The Marriage Counsellors.

They all say the same things, really:

1. Keep your own life going;
2. Take time for self care;
3. Say "please" and "thank you" a lot;
4. Don't try to control your husband's every action;
5. Be easy going.

'Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.' Old school and been strings for ages. Might help each other think about what the other needs or wants. For him, the 'mindful attraction plan' by Athol Kay. Will help him to be more confident and communicate more about what he wants, which in turn will make him more organised and want to do more to stay attractive to you, not just physically. Just a thought.

Around... Not strings...

Have you had marriage counselling?
Would he agree to that?
Do you ever just go out together and a nice couple-eee evening?
Do you have your own separate hobbies / alone time?
Any kids involved?

I really recommmend "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail" (and how to make yours last) by John Gottman. It's very specific and practical, not at all woo. I particularly like his writing on the difference between complaint and criticism, which is really really useful for any relationship. Also he lays out the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (of marriage).

Btw, I usually hate self-help books. Good luck!