I had a very acrimonious divorce which lasted nearly 2yrs. He was a serial cheater in a very horrific way and it affected me terribly. I know have a new career, amazing family and a lovely home, life is good after never thinking it would be again. I have met someone else and we have been together a year. He is the most amazing, loyal, kind, trustworthy person but……I just can’t let my guard down emotionally. I am on citalopram for anxiety and this blocks out my feelings but I daren’t come off them in case my world crashes. I find myself pressurised when he suggests staying over more than once a week…when he does stay I prefer it when he leaves rather than spends the day (he lives locally). I just can’t ever see me letting anyone in again. Has anybody else experienced this with a new relationship after an atrocious one? I have always been honest and said I would never live with anyone again but is this fair and realistic for him? (We are both 44yrs)