I have a good friend I have been there for her through lots of her struggles and I have been very good to her. (I’ll call her A).
A girl ( I’ll call her B) I met a short time after her is my best friend for 7 years now. I thought that was pretty obvious to anyone that knows us
But girl A is extremely possessive and is always referring to me being her best friend ..... however she is not mine. Nor do I ever respond to her comments
She makes statements on my social media like she’s trying to mark her territory and warn girl B off
I can’t dump girl A as she really really needs a friend and I do like her. So I have done my best to ignore her small jibes over the years
She has had about 4 best friends over this time, so I didn’t think much of it
However she’s been dumped by her other “ best mates “ in the last year. And I have really seen the possessiveness escalate. Strings of manipulating messages and harassment. Direct confrontation asking why my friendship with girl B is stronger than hers. Then asking me to explain myself .
I don’t feel I should have too explain myself I have never changed my friendship to her.
I have noticed reactions to social media , and I feel if I change my behavior or hide her from my posts with girl B then she’s winning or then I’m being a bad friend ?
I can’t leave girl A ... she needs me . But I find the possessiveness and confrontation hard to Handel . Being accused of being a fake friend and a user and she won’t be a second rate friend ?
Is this normal behavior - I have never heard of such stuff before ? What do I do ?
(Explaining nicely isn’t working and I can’t dump her )
It feels so childish but I don’t want to upset anyone either
I just want to be a good person and friend :(