My DH is a great guy, a super father, and is generally a nice, laid back person. When it comes to me he doesn’t really think about how I feel about stuff and is generally dismissive of me when I am being “emotional”, and he rolls his eyes if I even mention feeling down and a bit depressed, and just walks off. He never actually shows physical affection, just not tactile. We do actually have good banter, on good days, but increasingly I just feel so alone. When I try to talk about this he makes me feel silly about it and tends to shut down the conversation. He doesn’t compliment me on anything really, but is quick to point out mistakes, the negatives. Also on occasion, like today, he’s just being unpleasant, having a go at me for the smallest of things, seemingly getting angry at me over nothing. In these moments, it’s like just the sound of my voice makes him seem more agitated.
In this situation it’s always, always me who ends up apologising for upsetting him, but I don’t even know what it is that I did to upset him. And he never apologises for anything . I was about to go down stairs and do this. But I’ve decided that I can’t keep being emotionally subservient like this when he is having a might strop and is being critical and horrible. Walking around quietly, trying not to upset him more. I can’t stand it. I feel alone. What can I say to him to make him understand that he is making me feel more and more invisible and rubbish?