Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Feel inadequate for GF

7 replies

101unsure · 10/05/2018 14:11

Okay so I don’t know if I am being so stupid here. I feel as if I am not good enough to be with my girlfriend and feel as if she isn’t into me anymore. My reasons behind this are.

1 I am just a simple construction worker. when I know she has previously gone with lawyers doctors etc. People that I feel could give her a better life.
2 I work away from home Monday to Friday and only see her at the weekends which isn’t enough time I am giving to her.

I feel she isn’t into me anymore because our texting has gone bland. Also our sex life has became poor. We sext saying what we are going to do with each other when we are together. But any time I try to initiate anything I get rejected. To be honest I don’t know how much more rejection I can deal with. I honestly love her so much only been together for two years. Is there anything I can do?

OP posts:
hellsbellsmelons · 10/05/2018 15:43

I don't think there is.
She's basically 'gone off' you.
What does she say when you talk to her about it all?
She's putting off sex which means she doesn't want to be intimate with you.
Basically she doesn't find you sexually attractive anymore.
It's time for 'the chat'
End things amicably if you can and move on.

101knight · 10/05/2018 16:05

She says she is tired and stressed with balancing work etc. When she does want sex it is absolutely amazing totally indescribable how good it is for both of us. I always ensure she is well looked after. I think it’s the distance of me working away from home is causing a problem. I am changing jobs to be home more.

SoapOnARoap · 10/05/2018 17:20

If there’s no sex, there’s no point. You’re just friends with no benefits. Get out now, it'll only get worse

101knight · 10/05/2018 18:23

Should I be worried that she continues to stay friends with one of her male exs from a while back knowing they slept together when they where both single. My head is all over the place with this one minute the relationship is really hot next cold as

Aussiebean · 10/05/2018 18:47

I think you should get over being ‘inadequate’ unless that has specifically mentioned.

The problem is more likely your work, two years of little contactactual physical contact and you have drifted apart.

Maybe time for cards on the table talk. Does she want you to change jobs so you can spend more time together or is it time to do something else?

101knight · 10/05/2018 19:22

No she hasn’t specifically said she wants me to get work closer to home but it’s the little things like going to nephews parties family get togethers that happen during the week she feels that she is the odd one out as all other family members have there partner with them. So I said I was changing jobs to be closer to home had little to no response i am leaving a good job to be closer to her.

RhubarbTea · 10/05/2018 19:25

Noooooooo don't leave your job for someone who doesn't even care!

New posts on this thread. Refresh page