Can ever have a relationship with my sil

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I have never had a good relationship with my sil even from beginning of brothers and her relationship. From what I understand my sil had a difficult childhood which may explain her behaviour. Things didn't start well because at our first proper meeting at a family event she was quite rude and things didn't get better from there. I had very little to do with her until she fell pregnant with my first niece after that I tried to get a long with her but then she would post things on facebook which offended me and at times I feel she is very controlling towards my brother. Fast forward to today with me and my dp planning our own family I want a relationship with her as my kids and hers will be cousins but I worry that there is too much water under the bridge to start a relationship which is good for every one involved especially the children.

To be honest, I’d give her up as a lost cause and I would n’t start a family with your partner if He allows himself to be controlled by her. There’s something creepy about women who dominate their brothers.

Do n’t worry about your unborn children not having a relationship with their cousins, you do n’t miss what you ve never had

Hi,

I'd say remember there are two sides to every story. This could have been my SIL who wrote this - except she's just given birth and made it clear that she wants me to have nothing to do with the baby.

My husbands family view me the way you view her - controlling of your brother. In my situation though it's an impression that he's allowed them to make about me. In actual fact he is emotionally and verbally abusive.

I would have loved the birth of his niece to be a fresh new start for us all, but in the end it has become the same and that hurts. Nothing wrong with embracing your SIL and seeing what comes of it...

@Northernparent68 - it's her brother's partner, nothing to do with her dp

I think when you are so different from her it is difficult. I would just be civil with her, ignore her fb shit, and enable a relationship between the children. You can't force friendship imo

I thought this was my sister in law writing this about me.. Except my brother is controlling and emotionally abusive and I can see this behaviour affecting my niece now too.

I have said things he didn't want to hear because I love my niece but they both distanced themselves from me and I know he spins everyone a tale where he is the victim of his bad controlling sister when in fact it's very much the other way round..