Is it normal to feel so anxious about moving in with boyfriend?

[anxietygirl76]

Shouldn't feel like this should it?? Or should it? I've no idea...20 years in a marriage, we were young when we moved in together I can't remember how it felt then.. or if I felt this way. Separated two years ago.

Seeing new partner now for just over a year and we are looking, but I'm not sure I feel 'ready' but when will I feel ready? Surely I should be super duper happy at the thought of living together?

I feel so anxious about it , what does this say about me and our relationship?

Maybe you need your own space. I don't think a year is long enough. I give myself 5 years before I even talk about moving in with a partner. But I love living on my own and everyone is different.

Dont do it.

You were with someone 20 years.
You were only single a year.

Give yourself time to just be you and live your life your own way.

I’ve been with my partner for three years and we spends about 5-6 nights together but no way am I moving in with him. I love my own space and making decisions about my home. Also, he has a beach front apartment and if we moved in that’s probably the one we’d sell, and I love it far too much!

I’m moving in with DP and buying a place together after around 14 months together.

There is no normal here or right or wrong. I’m feeling so excited and happy about it. If you are feeling anxious then perhaps you aren’t ready?

What's the hurry? Seeing him only just over a year? That's nothing. You have said you don't feel ready. Because you aren't ready. So wait. CArry on as you are.

Enjoy the romance for longer.

It the circumstances you describe I wouldn’t.

Married 20 years, that ends and just a year later moving in with someone else. After 20 years of being with someone I think I’d want time with my own space and I think that being so anxious shows maybe you are ready just yet and you should listen to that

It doesn’t mean your relationship is bad or anything it just means the thought of living together 24/7 isn’t the right step at this time. That may well change 6 months, a year or two down the line

I agree, if you feel anxious you’re not ready. It doesn’t mean there’s a problem in the relationship. Lots of people have really happy relationships while living apart. I can’t see myself ever living with anyone again and a lot of it is “silly” reasons, like I watch very little TV now and some evenings like to sit quietly and read. Whereas a lot of people like to sit in front of tv in the evenings, which is fine, i just know I would be bothered by the “noise”. It wouldn’t mean there was a problem in the relationship. Just that it’s better to have our own space.

Maybe your just enjoying have your own place after a 20 marriage, and that’s absolutely fine. You shouldn’t rush into anything you don’t feel ready for.

A year is far too soon. The dating is the best bit of a relationship. Enjoy that bit!