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Sadness

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Barchester · 10/05/2018 00:08

My dh died almost six years ago and I am still so deeply sad and distressed. We had a very happy marriage and he always made me feel so wonderful and I hope that I did the same for him. He died of a heart attack in bed, lying beside me, and was dead before the doctor and paramedics arrived. I have a fulfilling job, which keeps me occupied, and fortunately I work for myself, so I can stay at home on the very bad days and then I work late on the not-so-bad days. We had no dc. I have been seeing a counsellor for the past three years. He is a very sympathetic man but he has not really helped me with my grief, which is as bad now as when I first started to see him. Some people tell me that I am suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome due to the sudden nature of dh's death and tell me that I should see a psychiatrist. Has anyone else felt like this? Can a psychiatrist help more than a counsellor or is this intense grief something that will be with me for ever? As Her Majesty said after 9/11, "Grief is the price that we pay for love." Perhaps that is my answer.

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Ariesgirl1988 · 10/05/2018 00:34

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think you ever really move on from a death of a loved one you always love and miss them but it eventually gets easier to live with. What has your counsellor done exactly to help you deal with this grief? RE: seeing a psychiatrist I don't think they will be able to magically heal you overnight more likely they will assess your mental health and advise on treatments i.e medication and maybe Cognitive Behavioural Therapy but there's different forms of therapy a psychologist can do if counselling isn't helping. Speak to your GP and see what they think because unless you pay private its gonna be hard to get a referral to a psychiatrist

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