I don't have a good relationship with my pil. Over the years little things have built up and now I know I'm tetchy and grumpy when they're around. Last year they did something which I thought was awful but I do accept it wasn't calculated, just thoughtless.
It's got to the point where I've built up a real wall around myself when it comes to them and I struggle to be nice to them. They're not genuinely bad people, a bit irritating (but who isn't) and can be thoughtless but in the other hand I'm defensive, sarcastic and grumpy. I know they love my children. How I am around them upsets my husband so I want make things better. I've suggested we all sit down and clear the air but husband thinks that's a bad idea so how do I chip away at this wall?? I don't necessarily want to be close to them but I can't keep being this bristly bitch.