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Worried about a family member

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Todaythiswillbemyname · 08/05/2018 19:22

Name changed in case I reveal any outing information.

One of my siblings seems to have changed recently. I suspect depression but don't know what I can do to support them.

They don't live close by so I can't pop in, don't answer their phone or respond to messages unless chased. I leave it a few days before I check again they are OK so I'm not bombarding them. When they do respond it's not with any real information and they always say they are fine.

They work hard. They have various problems but have suggested previously that they've decided not to complain about things any more. They have always had quite a private side.

They used to speak to parents several times a week but now rarely call.

We were very close and used to live near each other. I moved a few years ago but we still had very frequent contact until recently.

I'm starting to really worry. Something is not right. Is there any way I can approach this with them?

OP posts:
Todaythiswillbemyname · 08/05/2018 19:27

Anyone?

OP posts:
category12 · 08/05/2018 19:33

Arrange to go and see them?

Todaythiswillbemyname · 08/05/2018 19:49

I'm due to see them next month but I know they will be evasive if I ask what's up and will just say they are OK. I know I can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped but I don't feel I can just sit back and let them get on with it.

OP posts:
category12 · 08/05/2018 20:10

I think just be honest and tell them you're worried about them, that you've noticed them distancing themselves etc. As you say, you can't help unless they want you to. I'd probably move the visit sooner if possible.

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