Do I say something

[picklejimmy]

Been with dp for around 3 years. Marriage has been talked about in the past, me not fussed and him quite against the idea, he doesn't see the point and doesn't like the religious undertones to it. So it just seemed to not be an issue. Although now, going to several weddings over the last few months, am leaning towards thinking it would be quite nice to maybe one day get married. Do I say something? Or just shrug it off accept we never will and move on?

Of course! It’s your life too. If it’s something you think you want to do then the most important person to discuss it with is the person you want to do it with.

Do you want to be married, or do you want a wedding? If you just want a wedding, then personally I would forget thinking about getting married. If you would like to be married even if it was just you two and some witnesses, then definitely give it some more thought. Think about why, and if its a deal breaker, then discuss it with your DP. Its probably better to bring it up when you are clearer on your actual thoughts, otherwise you may confuse him too.

I'd like to be married. My idea of hell is having a lot of people staring at me so if we ever did it would have to be just me and him and witnesses.

Definitely say something

Yes you do need to say something.
And also to be really as to WHY you want a wedding and why he doesn’t (eg a civil wedding in a small town hall has nothing to do with religion)

I would guess that actually you wouldnt mind ‘confirming’ your engagement to make the relationhsip a LT One and you need to be sure he does want to be involved in that way.

We have long term plans, house, even retirement plans haha. I will talk to. Him about it again. I'd rather spend my life with him than get married, but I'd quite like to get married, but our life together is more important than that if that makes sense.